I just don't get this online dating thin

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Registered: 09-05-2004
I just don't get this online dating thin
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Sun, 07-02-2006 - 6:54pm

Hi there,

Ok, I have stopped obsessing about the man I work with and have gone back to business as usual. Certainly the right choice for me now. Thanks for the advice.

However, from that whole scenario, I decided to try the match thing. Is it normal for men to email you for a couple of weeks, ask for your number and disappear without calling? Or call you say they want to go out and then disappear? Seems that there is an awful lot of rejection in this aspect of dating.

I find myself unaturally drawn to my computer now. Need to go home and check for emails, etc. That seems a little insane to me.

I just wanted to hear from others on their experiences with this mode of meeting people & if my experiences to date are normal? It has only been a few weeks, so I may not have a fair representation yet.

Thanks.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 7:12pm

Yes, that's par for the course with OLD. But it's hardly "new" to have even one or two dates and then never hear from the guy again...I remember dating in NYC back in the early 80s, well before the internet, and that type of thing happened all the time (and not just to me ;-)).

Don't allow yourself to get so caught up early on, and don't take it personally. Nothing is real until you meet in person, and even then, it's pretty usual for people to disappear on you. If you don't have a pretty thick skin and can let rejection roll off you, then OLD may not be for you (although IMO dating in general requires a pretty thick skin ;-)).

Sheri

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Registered: 09-05-2004
Sun, 07-02-2006 - 7:27pm

Thanks Sheri..

I generally have a fairly thick skin, but haven't with this yet. That is why I asked the question. If it is part of the experience and it is the norm, then I won't take it personally.