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| Mon, 04-19-2004 - 8:23am |
ok. let me just tell you how this all started out.
My "old" Best friend would always flirt with my (ex)boyfriend, and well he would flirt back. and i told them that i didnt like that. Mostly it was my best friend that would start flirting with him. Well i told my best friend to stop and she told me that she doesnt flirt with him and she would call me stupid and make me feel stupid so then i would be like "ok so i guess your not flirting" but every where i go they would flirt people at my school would always be like "your best friend and your boyfriend were flirting alot at the pool" and well i wasnt even there. i would ask them about it and they would say "what?? who said that!!! then my boyfriend said that he wanted to kick there butts" because they said that. well he never got the chance to. and then i started to say it even more "you guys are soo flirting stop it!!!" so they stopped for a little bit. And my boyfriend seemed to be losing intrest in me as what i thought and we never really got to see each other that much either becuase i was moving, i was moving right behind his house i dont know how that even worked out we used to live 20 minutes away from each other by driving and now we live a minute away. Well anywho we were REALLY really close. I mean I have never been that close to a guy before. We went out for about 4-5 months. so about 3 days after i moved by him i went shopping for the whole day with my sisters and mom. I never got to see him for the whole day. usually we would see each other around lunch time for a little bit. Then he would leave. Well on that shopping day I came home around 6:00 pm. and about an hour later a friend, my sister and I went for a walk to The Macs Store. After that we decided to go to kc's house becuase we thought maybe cam and all of our friends would be there. And they were. I saw my boyfriends shoes and Boy was i ever happy to see his shoes. So we went down stairs where we'd hang out and there was Kc, Glenn, and Jayme Sitting on the couch. and i thought "where is cam(my boyfriend) and Kayla(my old best friend)??i was so confused" then i was thinking oh my gosh what could they be doing???? and i knew they were in Kc's room. Where else could have they been??? I walked in there and kayla and cam were on the bed kissing each other and holding hands. I yelled words and ran out the room in to the bath room. I couldnt think very well at all. my heart was pumping all i could think of was "how could this happen this isnt true" i was crying and shaking and my heart was pumping. I smashed my friends mirror. and ran out of there house and slammed the door. Kc and Jayme Ran after me. I was balling and every one that was out side was looking at me all confused i was crying so much. i was soo sad. and kc and jayme told me to go to the house so i did. so i walked back in her house and cams hair was all messed up and he looked guilty so did kayla. I walked by Kayla and i elbowed her and i went down stairs. I could here kayla saying "im not going to be here if shes going to be a b**ch" and cam and every one else went down stairs. I talked to him and i asked him why he did it? and he said "I DONT KNOW!!! IT JUST HAPPEND!!" they also always told each other they were best friends. all the time they would say that. I just always thought kayla was some hyper little best friend of cams but they always flirted that was the thing. He told EVERYONE he liked me sooooooooo much. He tricked me. Ok well This all happend about 2-3 weeks ago. And now he is not aloud to hang out with kayla becuase she skipped school and went with cam some where. So he wrote me an email that said i miss hanging out with you. so that day he wrote that letter he came to my house and so i guess we hung out with some other people. And he was flirting with me so much. It was rediculous. Then the next day He tells my sister he likes me again. his msn name is now "a million words can not bring you back, I know because i tried. Neither could a million tears, i know becuase ive cried." I asked my sister what that was about?? and she says "its about you!!! haha" they talk alot. She told me that he wants build a time machine and go back time and change what he did. But the good thing about that was that he took kayla away from me, and that made my life 80% better, she would always humiliate me, talk behind my back, make me feel bad, she would also always leave me out. I would always cry and pray to god to take that away. and thats what he brought me. the reason why she was my best friend is because she was just so fun but i could have fun with out her she is like a drug. I was praying to god asking him why that happend i would be balling. And now i know why. Well all i wanna know is should i give him a second chance???? or would he cheat on me again? because i hurd the quote "once a cheater always a cheater"
My "old" Best friend would always flirt with my (ex)boyfriend, and well he would flirt back. and i told them that i didnt like that. Mostly it was my best friend that would start flirting with him. Well i told my best friend to stop and she told me that she doesnt flirt with him and she would call me stupid and make me feel stupid so then i would be like "ok so i guess your not flirting" but every where i go they would flirt people at my school would always be like "your best friend and your boyfriend were flirting alot at the pool" and well i wasnt even there. i would ask them about it and they would say "what?? who said that!!! then my boyfriend said that he wanted to kick there butts" because they said that. well he never got the chance to. and then i started to say it even more "you guys are soo flirting stop it!!!" so they stopped for a little bit. And my boyfriend seemed to be losing intrest in me as what i thought and we never really got to see each other that much either becuase i was moving, i was moving right behind his house i dont know how that even worked out we used to live 20 minutes away from each other by driving and now we live a minute away. Well anywho we were REALLY really close. I mean I have never been that close to a guy before. We went out for about 4-5 months. so about 3 days after i moved by him i went shopping for the whole day with my sisters and mom. I never got to see him for the whole day. usually we would see each other around lunch time for a little bit. Then he would leave. Well on that shopping day I came home around 6:00 pm. and about an hour later a friend, my sister and I went for a walk to The Macs Store. After that we decided to go to kc's house becuase we thought maybe cam and all of our friends would be there. And they were. I saw my boyfriends shoes and Boy was i ever happy to see his shoes. So we went down stairs where we'd hang out and there was Kc, Glenn, and Jayme Sitting on the couch. and i thought "where is cam(my boyfriend) and Kayla(my old best friend)??i was so confused" then i was thinking oh my gosh what could they be doing???? and i knew they were in Kc's room. Where else could have they been??? I walked in there and kayla and cam were on the bed kissing each other and holding hands. I yelled words and ran out the room in to the bath room. I couldnt think very well at all. my heart was pumping all i could think of was "how could this happen this isnt true" i was crying and shaking and my heart was pumping. I smashed my friends mirror. and ran out of there house and slammed the door. Kc and Jayme Ran after me. I was balling and every one that was out side was looking at me all confused i was crying so much. i was soo sad. and kc and jayme told me to go to the house so i did. so i walked back in her house and cams hair was all messed up and he looked guilty so did kayla. I walked by Kayla and i elbowed her and i went down stairs. I could here kayla saying "im not going to be here if shes going to be a b**ch" and cam and every one else went down stairs. I talked to him and i asked him why he did it? and he said "I DONT KNOW!!! IT JUST HAPPEND!!" they also always told each other they were best friends. all the time they would say that. I just always thought kayla was some hyper little best friend of cams but they always flirted that was the thing. He told EVERYONE he liked me sooooooooo much. He tricked me. Ok well This all happend about 2-3 weeks ago. And now he is not aloud to hang out with kayla becuase she skipped school and went with cam some where. So he wrote me an email that said i miss hanging out with you. so that day he wrote that letter he came to my house and so i guess we hung out with some other people. And he was flirting with me so much. It was rediculous. Then the next day He tells my sister he likes me again. his msn name is now "a million words can not bring you back, I know because i tried. Neither could a million tears, i know becuase ive cried." I asked my sister what that was about?? and she says "its about you!!! haha" they talk alot. She told me that he wants build a time machine and go back time and change what he did. But the good thing about that was that he took kayla away from me, and that made my life 80% better, she would always humiliate me, talk behind my back, make me feel bad, she would also always leave me out. I would always cry and pray to god to take that away. and thats what he brought me. the reason why she was my best friend is because she was just so fun but i could have fun with out her she is like a drug. I was praying to god asking him why that happend i would be balling. And now i know why. Well all i wanna know is should i give him a second chance???? or would he cheat on me again? because i hurd the quote "once a cheater always a cheater"

He probably truly regrets what he did and he may never do it again but if you go back out with him he will believe he can treat you however he wants to, but you won't leave! You'll be setting yourself up for heartbreak.
Good Luck, I know it is hard, Leave....
Strength and Power to Ya,
Hurtin'
And you better believe that your ex should stay that way... in the past.. Even if you and Cam remain friends, you shouldn't be his girlfriend anymore. He had his chance with you and screwed it up....
Good Luck!
You deserve more respect than this guy was giving you. When he was flirting with your best friend and you told him it made you uncomfortable (this behaviour was INCREDIBLY disrespectful to you, by the way!)...and he CONTINUED to do it...then you should have dumped him there. He "doesn't know" how it happened...just goes to show that he a) isn't mature enough to own up to his actions (flirting, getting her alone, etc) and b) is too stupid to think any legitimate response c) doesn't care enough about you or is not capable of telling you the TRUTH.
Console yourself knowing that there are guys out there who don't pull this junk. Think about how embarassing your behaviour was at your friends house (breaking a mirror?) - do you think any guy is worth that? A healthy r/ship won't create that kind of hurt and drama.
Go.