I keep on going back

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Registered: 07-21-2004
I keep on going back
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 10:01pm
I was in a seven month relationship with a guy - and we were just very different people that wanted and needed different things in a relationship. The problem is we've been trying to be "just friends" but we keep on hooking up. This has been happenning for about 3 months after we broke up. I promise myself that I won't, because I know it isn't good for me, but I almost feel powerless to control myself. As a result I am very angry with myself, but I can't make myself let this go. I am addicted to the attention, so part of me feels fulfilled by the attention, but I know it has to stop. How can I resolve this and get over him for good when I am so mixed up in my emotions? This is driving me crazy.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 5:52am
I think you need to just stop seeing him all together, even as 'friends' at least for a little while. As for the attention loving part of you, we all have that side...so instead of getting the short-lived ego boost form your ex-beau, try finding healthier way to receive the jolt. Instead of concentrating on him, and how he makes you feel, try thinking of other thing that make you happy; start working for the inner you. Of course there is nothing wrong with doing something to the ouer you to boost your spirits, as well...maybe getting your hair done or wearing an outfit that makes you feel sexy. I used to like to dress up really nice and go shopping, my two favorite things (attention, and buying things, lol) of course I have since toned it down to looking great while window shopping :D

Anyway, just get him out of your head and your sight for a while, and work on you...before you know, you can be friends again if you feel that's what you still want, and you will feel great about yourself too.

Good Luck, hope I help at least a teeny bit

~Dizzy