I kissed another guy and my man knows

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Registered: 10-28-2003
I kissed another guy and my man knows
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Fri, 04-09-2004 - 11:52am
I have a male bestfriend. We've always liked each other but never dated. We really love each other as friends and we've been friends for or 14yrs. I've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months. We really love each other and want to one day marry. The problem is that 2 months into the relationship I kissed my bestfriend as a sort of "just to see what I might be missing" test. Yesterday my boyfriend found out about the kiss and was really upset. Today he asked me to choose between him and my bestfriend. He doesn't want me to ever speak to my bestfriend again because he no longer trusts me. What should I do?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 12:43pm
grown ups are people who deal with the consequences of their actions. you decide who is the priority in your life, the best friend of 14 years or the boyfriend who you think you may marry. it sounds like your boyfriend has given you an ultimatum...it's on you to rebuild the trust by showing him that he's the priority in your life. But if you decide that giving up your friend is too high a price, then don't expect your boyfriend to stick around.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-09-2004 - 9:29pm
Could it be that your best friend and you are more interested in one another than you think? Could it be that you are a swinger? A swinger is someone who likes multiple boyfriends.

Apparently your boyfriend wants to be exclusive with you. If you want to keep your boyfriend, you will have to give up your best friend. After all, isn't your boyfriend considered you best friend?