I know I sound like a teenager but...
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I know I sound like a teenager but...
| Thu, 07-22-2004 - 10:20am |
... I met this guy online about two and a half months ago. I thought
he was really nerdy and not my type at all. But for some reason I
kept hanging out with him. I finally came to the conclusion that I
actually like him a lot. I didn't want to let myself like anyone so
I was in denial. Anyway, my question is ... how do you know if a guy
genuinely likes you or is slowling losing interest? We see each other about twice a week by his
initiating but something confuses me...
he was really nerdy and not my type at all. But for some reason I
kept hanging out with him. I finally came to the conclusion that I
actually like him a lot. I didn't want to let myself like anyone so
I was in denial. Anyway, my question is ... how do you know if a guy
genuinely likes you or is slowling losing interest? We see each other about twice a week by his
initiating but something confuses me...
He's going away tomorrow for a week on vacation. His flight leaves at
noon. We saw each other last night. BUT he didn't mention wanting
to get together tonight, he didn't say that he was going to miss me or
even call me this evening... so now I'm all thrown off. How does one
know if a guy likes them or losing interest???

I think that if you met him online and you're dating twice a week, that's very good. Some people never get past the first coffee date. Relax and think about what's causing all this anxiety in you.
didn't even call last night or this morning to say "goodbye". This
just seems like a red flag to me about his feelings. I'm thinking
I should start looking else where. I don't want to be in a relationship
where I don't mean much to the person yet again.
To me, it seems like men make time for the things that are important to them. If he isn't making time for you in the way you would like, he may not be interested. Even if he IS interested, it may not be worth it because he isn't giving you the attention you want in a relationship.
But since you haven't been seeing each other that long, he's probably just trying to figure out what he wants and where he feels things ought to go. Give him some time over vacation to think about it and then talk to him when he gets back. If he gets squeemish over your honesty, then it is probably time to back off. If he is understanding and open, then you have yourself a keeper. Either way it is a win/win. You find out that he is interested or give yourself license to move on. Hope this helps!