I know I sound like a teenager but...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
I know I sound like a teenager but...
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Thu, 07-22-2004 - 10:20am
... I met this guy online about two and a half months ago. I thought

he was really nerdy and not my type at all. But for some reason I

kept hanging out with him. I finally came to the conclusion that I

actually like him a lot. I didn't want to let myself like anyone so

I was in denial. Anyway, my question is ... how do you know if a guy

genuinely likes you or is slowling losing interest? We see each other about twice a week by his

initiating but something confuses me...

He's going away tomorrow for a week on vacation. His flight leaves at

noon. We saw each other last night. BUT he didn't mention wanting

to get together tonight, he didn't say that he was going to miss me or

even call me this evening... so now I'm all thrown off. How does one

know if a guy likes them or losing interest???

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 10:52am
I think he's interested in you. I think that maybe you have unrealistic expectations or perhaps are a little needy. The eve of a vacation is not the time to go and hang out, it's time to wash and pack. I know that some people are better organized or more relaxed, but a lot of people that I know go little bezerk.

I think that if you met him online and you're dating twice a week, that's very good. Some people never get past the first coffee date. Relax and think about what's causing all this anxiety in you.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 9:57am
I guess I can understand the not wanting to hang out part but he

didn't even call last night or this morning to say "goodbye". This

just seems like a red flag to me about his feelings. I'm thinking

I should start looking else where. I don't want to be in a relationship

where I don't mean much to the person yet again.
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Registered: 11-23-2003
Fri, 07-23-2004 - 12:17pm
I was seeing someone for about a month. He just left on a one month vacation and he got together with me the night before he departed. Since we haven't been together that long, we put things on "pause" until he returns at the end of August.

To me, it seems like men make time for the things that are important to them. If he isn't making time for you in the way you would like, he may not be interested. Even if he IS interested, it may not be worth it because he isn't giving you the attention you want in a relationship.

But since you haven't been seeing each other that long, he's probably just trying to figure out what he wants and where he feels things ought to go. Give him some time over vacation to think about it and then talk to him when he gets back. If he gets squeemish over your honesty, then it is probably time to back off. If he is understanding and open, then you have yourself a keeper. Either way it is a win/win. You find out that he is interested or give yourself license to move on. Hope this helps!