I know I'm too picky...how do I stop?
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| Mon, 03-29-2004 - 1:40pm |
I'm usually attracted to the guy who is incredibly adventurous, class clown type...I on the other hand am the complete opposite of this guy. I'm much more quieter...but I'm attracted to these guys because they make me feel liberated in ways. The relationships always fail though! Sometimes we remain friends, sometimes we don't. So I assume these are the wrong men for me.
This guy...is very interesting, and yes he's adventurous too; but he's a little more subdued. We have alot in common, but there are many issues that I don't agree with him on...certain politics and stuff. This is where I start to question the possibility of a relationship. My ex and I had so much in common! He was "that guy" I mentioned above...but yet we are still best of friends. Now I find myself comparing the new guy to him...(though I know that is horribly wrong)...and it's making me question. I want to give this guy a chance, there is definitly a physical attraction...and I enjoy his company enough to want to spend more time with him...but how do I stop thinking/over analyzing the situation, so that I can let my gaurd down and let him in?
PLEASE HELP!

It doesn't sound to me like you're being picky at all about this guy.
stop talking to your friends no-stop about this, him, your ex.
start seeing the possibilities in him and see if you like him for him.
tune into how you feel and stop going to other's for approval - which is what you're doing with your friends and about your ex when you analyze it all to death out loud.
do him a favor and stop comparing him to your ex. if your ex was THAT great you'd still be with him.
and if you can't do these things, then leave the poor guy alone.