I know my problem, but how do I change

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Registered: 02-04-2004
I know my problem, but how do I change
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Mon, 06-21-2004 - 8:52am
I seem to attract men who don't want a commitment and just wanna have fun. It's always "I'm not looking for a serious relationship". I'm a nice girl, cute, funny, and I do like to have fun. But why can't I find a man who wants a relationship? How do I stop this cycle?
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Registered: 01-21-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 11:15am
Try aiming toward slightly older men. Lots of young guys in the 18-25 year age range are NOT interested in marriage or even a long term relationship. So, I don't know your age, but try going for slightly older. If you have been dating men in the 27-28 range, try for ones in their 30's. Try a few years older and see if you have better luck.
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 11:20am
I'm living with my 45 yr. old boyfriend, I"m 33. It may eithr be that you are looking in the wrong age group, like the other message said, or maybe you are just looking to hard. How important is it to you to have a boyfriend? If you always seem to have some type of boyfriend, like moving from one to the next and so on.............then I would say to start spending some time alone. Have you ever heard the saying, you will find it when you least expect it, or something like that. If you are looking to hard, chances are you are trying to hard. Relax, go with the flow. Stop looking and the right one will show up. I know it's tough to just sit back and let things happen, but it works.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-21-2004 - 11:23am
Be upfront about what you're looking for, tell your friends to hook you up with like minded men. And like the other poster said, maybe change the age group that you're hanging out with.
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 11:50am
I agree with the others.
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