"I love you" but going to Vegas???
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| Tue, 08-16-2005 - 12:51pm |
Hello everyone:
I need some advice. A guy I have been seeing for just a little while (I have known him for about 3 months) is making me a little confused. I know I am not looking for a serious relationship right now because I have been dating someone for the past 4 years (first one for almost 3 years and the other for over 1 year) and I think I need some alone time.
Well, this guy has been great to me, really sweet and considerate, but I want to take things slow. Last weekend he confessed to me that he is in love with me and wants to be in this relationship with me. While it does not scare me that he feels that way about me, I am a little hesitant to enter a new relationship so soon.
I asked him today what his plans are for labor day weekend and he said he just decided to go to Vegas with a bunch of his single male friends and just party and get drunk (ok a little silly for someone who is almost 28). That is fine but what really threw me off was that he added “you know what they say, what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas”….which is definitely NOT a comment you’d make to someone who you want to be in a relationship with and get to know better. So now I am not too sure what to do. If he goes to Vegas (with that comment made, nonetheless) I do not think I can continue to see him. I have no problem with him going to Vegas since we aren’t a girlfriend/boyfriend type of deal (although somehow HE seems to think that) but his comment really makes me wonder what is really going on…any ideas???
~T~

It's a stupid commercial. I'd ask him straight up what his plans are while he is in Vegas. If he plans to employ a prostitute you might want to know about it so if you do enter a relationship with this man you will know to wear a full body condom.
I have a good friend that has twice visited South American countries to employ prostitutes and after each "vacation" the American women he was dating at the time dumped him.
I agree with Vexer...if he's saying that he loves you, he's not getting the message that you want things to be casual! He thinks you're just saying that, and/or that he can change your mind.
Under those circumstances, I think the responsible thing to do is end it. It's one thing if you told him that you wanted to keep things casual and he was at least *pretending* to be going along with it (i.e., you didn't know he wasn't ok with it), it's quite another to know clearly that he's not ok with it.
Sheri