I made a big mistake...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2004
I made a big mistake...
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Sun, 07-11-2004 - 8:57pm
OK so I have been hanging out with this guy I met on online personals, but thus far, nothing "romantic" has happened. But I do like him, and I was hoping something would happen...

so anyway, last weekend he calls me and says, let's go walk at the beach. So we did, but it was a hot, sunny afternoon that called for...bathing suit wearing.

Now, last summer I was quite a bit thinner and thus my only bathing suit is a bikini. So I wore a bathing suit in front of him that looks really, really, horribly hideous on me now. I mean, I shouldn't have worn any bathing suit in front of him at all.

So I haven't really heard from him all week. This guy isn't some studly playa or anything- he's a nice, sweet nerd. But all guys have the same needs and wants. I can't believe I lost another one and just because I was stupid...

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sun, 07-11-2004 - 9:28pm
Next time to be more comfy in your first date go to have coffee or hang out somewhere else that doesn't call for a swim suit. The guy might be dating more women, so don't worry too much over this an cross this out as a learning experience.
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Registered: 03-21-2004
Sun, 07-11-2004 - 9:51pm
oh it wasn't the first date. It was like the 5th. But still, it wasn't like he is my boyfriend who had already made up his mind that he liked me.

but he just called right after I posted this. so maybe it's ok.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 11:31am
Oh sweetie, try not to be so hard on yourself. If you don't like your body, you will radiate that when you are prancing around in your bathing suit, and you don't need to. The more confident you appear to be, the more confident you will feel. If you act as if your body is great, then he will see it that way...

Glad that he called, it is a good sign.

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