I messed up big time!!!!!!!!!
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I messed up big time!!!!!!!!!
| Wed, 02-21-2007 - 8:34pm |
So I met a guy a year ago... He was so nice and sweet... to make a long story short he he had a rule before he decided if he wanted a relationship he had to see how the sex was.. I was always scared to get involved with him because of that rule..I was hesitant.. He has been around a year.. and to be honest I am not proud to say but I have put him through hell was mean and nasty and caused ridiculous fights.. instead of giving him a chance I teased him and pushed him away. So my purpose in writing this is I did a very bad thing saturday night.. we were fooling around and almost had sex ( i say almost because I freaked out at the last minute.. He told me afterwards that if I stopped trying to plan everything and just let things happen we would have already been together.. That was saturday.. I texted him yesterday to apologize for the events that occured and he said that we were done because I play too many games... i want to fix this but I have no idea how.... I always thought he was after me for just sex ( but dont you agree if he was he would have been done with me a year ago... and also that he wouldnt be so hurt by what I have done..I know its confusing trust me I am living it.. I want to be with him more then anything I need some advice on how to fix this....

I think your gut may be telling you something that the rest of you isn't listening to. No guy I've ever met who was truly interested in a relationship had to have sex beforehand in order to know if they wanted to be with the girl. Sure, we all wonder if it will be good but to have it as a requirement? Come on.
Trust your instincts here... what are they saying?
I think there may have been games played on both ends here. The OP played some games by hanging onto him to see if he would stick around without sex. Truly if the OP wasn't comfortable with that, she should have ended it once he said that.
There's always 2 sides to a story and it takes 2 to tango, each party has to be responsible for their side of things, ya know?