I met him online, can he be?

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I met him online, can he be?
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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 11:39am

hi everyone & thanx for reading this

I met a guy on yahoo-360 (it's a network for friends like orkut & those things), he used to study in my university & he's nearly 8 years older than me. he's a musician & I loved everythingin his profile

what's more is that I really really believe in the first feeling, the first click about the person, 'cuz whenever I had the feeling that "he's a jerk" though I didn't have any proof for that, he really turned out to be a jerk & vice versa, whenever I had the feeling that this could work, it worked, at least for a short while.

about this guy, I've had 100% positive feelings & after a while we started chatting & he's very nice, we can communicate (that's the most important thing for me, 'cuz nowadays I don't understand the language of many young poeple like myself & I think they're dum & or even I"m from another planet)

we've had a couple of phone calls & it went good all the time but he hasn't asked me out yet or anything very direct about going out with ech other (he had made some hints before we got to this level & I think that was because he wanted to break the ice of being online friends & make it flirtatious & start a begining with me)

now here's the problem, I was looking at his profile & there are 100 friends there & maybe 90 of them are girls, all of them nice looking. & once he even mentioned that some girl (that I know too) has never chatted with him or something like that

now, is he doing this with every one? or does he really like me & wants to have a thing with me? or is it public?

thanx for your help

p.s. I relaly like this guy & I haven't had a relationship since god knows when & I don't want these feelings to make me blind & go through the things that I shouldn't go :D

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Registered: 11-04-2005
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 1:31pm
From my experience in online dating I can tell you that a lot changes going from the online correspondences to meeting in person. It does sound like he's communicating with a lot of other women, so I wouldn't start speculating about where you rank. Just keep your expectations under control and try to meet him in person. Are you waiting for him to ask you out? Why not suggest a cup of coffee or brief meeting? I think the sooner you get an in-person meeting out of the way the better.