I might be wrong??

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Registered: 07-08-2004
I might be wrong??
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Thu, 11-03-2005 - 2:48pm
This guy I know is cute and we flirt a little from time to time . He has a long distance girlfriend that he is in love with and is thinking about marrying . My question is I know he loves his girl , but he claims that they don't have the same goals in life . I feel we would be great together, but he has a girl and I want to respect that , but it's hard not to try and push up on him. He also told me today that I remind him of his ex- girlfriend I don't know what happen with them , but I thinks he finds me cute. Would I be wrong if I flirted just a little harder to let him know I'm interested.
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 2:55pm
If he tells you these things, he probably already knows.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 3:15pm
Yes, it would be wrong. He has a serious girlfriend and it is his decision on whether he wants to continue to be with her or break up to be with you. I would think he already knows you are interested and flirting with a guy that is in a serious relationship of any kind is irresponsible and unkind to the other girl. You don't know anything about their relationship except what he tells you. Back off and be just his friend. If you don't think you can do that, move on. Besides, you should want to be with someone that truly wants to be with you. If this guy did, he'd break up with this other girl to be with you.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 3:16pm

How would you feel if you had a boyfriend, even a long distance boyfriend, and some girl was "pushing up" on him? I don't think you would feel very good if you were in her shoes. SO think about that when you are tempted to flirt.

But your "cute guy" has the ultimate responsibility for remaining faithful to his girlfriend. If his long distance relationship situation isn't working out, he should break it off with her BEFORE he starts trying to date you or anyone else. If he's really a good and decent guy, it won't matter how much you flirt, because he will remain true to his girlfriend. You would just be throwing at yourself at him for nothing. On the other hand, if he gives in and responds to you, he's NOT being a trustworthy or honorable person, and you should also think about why you'd want to get involved with someone who would cheat. Just because you're closer geography-wise doesn't mean it's OK.

And I agree with the other poster... it's almost certain that he already knows you're interested.

Just some food for thought. I'm sure you'll do the right thing...

jilly.

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 6:05pm

Jajalel is right... turn the situation around. How would you feel if your man's roomate was pushing up on him? I know it's a tempting situation, but it's not worth it.


Question for you... have you thought about moving out?

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Registered: 08-23-2005
Fri, 11-04-2005 - 1:38am

Hello Lyric,

Quess what I am dating a man who lives 2 hours away from me, I would not like it, and I hope he is not the one you are talking about either. I feel he might be going out on me too, because he did go out on his ex-wife, and at times I have a hard time believing him and trusting him.

He might be needing attention from some other women, or he is a very bad bad man, or he is doing this only for HIS FUN AND NOT FOR YOU! I would be careful that he doesn't hurt you, and try to think of the other women, since he did tell you he did have a girlfriend.

I hope you find happiness and a good man to make you happy and someone to flirt with too in one man only who can be only there for you too! Amen!