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| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 11:25am |
hello,
well i need to advice on how to handle this situation...
since sept of last yr i have been dating this guy...
well we used to work in the same place before we started seeing each other.. well there is this girl that we used to work with that found out that we were dating. she started callling him and asking him to have drink but "as friends" he actually told me about this and that really upset me because she knows me personally and why would she try to disrespect me like that. i do feel disrespected. He told me that i have nothing to worry about because nothing is happening and that she is just a natural flirt. also that he doens't want her that he wants me.. and if he wanted to be with her, he would have done something about it. but she would text him with how is your girl? like if its any of her business...
she is really annoying me. and i told him that if she continues with her little girls actions i will be telling her something, since i know her i feel that there is a limit and i want to tell her what is her the problem.
i really don't know... i trust him but i don't trust her.
should i just not pay attention to it and just continue my relationship and believe him that there is nothing and that he doesn't want her.

He needs to put a stop to her behavior. He should not be meeting with her for drinks and should suggest that she stop texting him. It is clear that she is being competitive with you and would like to know that if she wanted your guy, she could get him. If he doesn't stop her behavior either he is a wimp or likes the attention, even at your expense...which tells me he is not that great of a guy. If he values your trust he would behave trustworthy by making it clear that he is your guy and doesn't feel it is appropriate to have drinks with her alone or to receive personal correspondence from her.
If he does not do this you may feel tempted to contact her yourself and let her know that what she is doing is not classy but catty and you would appreciate it if she would stop contacting him and asking him out for drinks. She'll respond with "were just friends" and you have the ability to say, "but you weren't this friendly until you found out that we were dating." You have a right to address her, but you should question not only her character but his...if he doesn't handle this appropriately. It could happen again and if it does, you may not feel it initially, but you may resent him down the road for not standing up for you or the relationship.
If she were to continue i will be confronting her. thank you for your advice and i'll keep you posted. :-)