I need advice on this guy please...
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| Sun, 02-19-2006 - 3:39pm |
So in Sept. I was working at a bar and I met one of the regulars that always came up for happy hour. Cute, shy, blah blah and his friends always gave him trouble for liking me so much and they'd tell me all kinds of things like "he thinks you're the hottest girl he's ever seen." So I never really hung out with him until after I quit there in early Jan.
So we've been hanging out here and there. Once or twice a week going out to eat or have a few drinks. I never really wanted him or anything I just liked him as a friend.
Well he sent me flowers on Valentines Day and took me out to a real nice fancy resturant.
So that was sweet and the only things that really bother me are I am 24 and he just turned 22. Well he's also only slept w/ one girl. Lets just say I'm experienced! So that's a litte akward. But the worst part is that he works 2 min. from my house I work 15-20min from my house like 20 from his house but we live like 40-45 min away from eachother.
His b-day was the 16th and we were supposed to hang out but he went to the bar with his friends and I'm BARD(not allowed to be there) from there. So no big deal he was gonna stop by later. Well that didn't happen b/c I went to my aunts bar. Well he called and left me a few voicemails like "you were the only person I really wanted to see on my birthday" & "I really like you where's this relationship going" <- (yeah out of a guys mouth!) So any way we hooked up last night if you know what I mean (his # is now 2) after going out to eat & for a few drinks I stayed the night and he got me breakfast in the morning before I was outta bed and we watched the Olympics laying around then we went to lunch and he just dropped me off.
Yeah there was just something about last night the conversation, reading between lines changed the way I looked at him.
But I want advice he seems like a really sweet guy. But he's young insecure and inexperienced. I don't want to corrupt him too much but I do want to be with him now. I do have to find a way to teach a guy how to do sexual things.
Any Advice would be greatly appreciated.

ok,
a)if the relationship is going to based on his "inexperiences" then i say there is no relationship. you guys like each other for each other, not the sex. besides, it's not like he's a virgin (not saying there is anything wrong with being a virgin) sexual experience comes from practicing different sexual acts and new ideas eg, anal, toys, food, new positions etc.. it's not called having experience when having sex with plenty of people, it's called whoring yourself (no offence). what do you learn by having sex with many people? what different people feel like? what STDs you can dodge?
b) the age thing is trivial. at least it's only 2 years. funny though if the age difference was reversed, things would be ok. if he seems to be at the level you feel comfortable with, then the age is nothing. just a fluke that his prents did not concieve him 2 years earlier.
c)40-45 mins really isn't much. if you have a good transit system, or a car then nothing should be the matter. i've dated guys who lived 1 1/2 hours away by public transit, 40 mins away by car from me and it was fine. as long as you can see each other. besides he works close to you so he may be able to stop by.
to me, there aren't any issues but if you still feel weird, go with your gut.
I see what you're saying. I do like him for reasons not based on sexual experience. I just kinda feel akward when I know he doesn't know as much as I do that's all. But I'm curiouse to try and find out why he likes me besides "that I'm beautiful." We have a good time when we hang out so I would assume that he likes me for other reasons that's logical right?
Age thing he is pretty mature for his age so yeah I don't really see that as being a problem right now. The distance I'm sure you're right that we can work with that. Thanks again for your response.