I need to fire him up again!!

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Registered: 07-17-2003
I need to fire him up again!!
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Mon, 07-19-2004 - 6:50am
I'm having some trouble with a guy. We were hanging out a lot in a sort of romantic/friendly/testing the waters kind of way. We got along absolutely perfectly, we always had fun, and our outings were always interesting and romantic. During the last outing we had we had the best time, we looked out at the stars and had a wonderful kiss. At the end of it he said, "we should really start dating--you know, for real." and I agreed completely. However this was during a very busy time in our lives (especially for me) so I didn't notice for awhile that he didn't call me after our outing.

I decided to call him but he was, and currently is, extremely busy--working until 10:30 almost every night, so he forgot to return my call. I waited for another week or so and tried calling him again. We had a good talk and I asked if he would like to do something sometime. He said he would but his truck was being testy and he didn't want to leave town to come get me (he lives 30 miles away) and since I don't have a car, there was no way of me getting there, short of me asking a friend to drive me up there (however, I didn't want a 3rd wheel tagging along and I'm sure the friend wouldn't appreciate it either). Well, after that I tried calling him once or twice but he was always busy or working or something. I even managed to get up to his house once, but he was just on his way somewhere.

He did ask me to do something recently, but I was unable to go. That is the one time he's called me since the summer began, and he hasn't called me since. I realize he's been busy, but he has some free time that he spends with his male friends. That is great, but I would love it if he would use some of that time for me. I rarely find guys that appeal to me, so it is pretty important to me to spark this guy's interest like it was once sparked. I would really enjoy it if HE would actually call ME and if we could hang out a little.

If you have any suggestions at all, they would be greatly appreciated. The one thing I don't want to hear, however, is to give up on him. I'm really determined, lol. Thanks so much!

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 1:14pm

He might be very busy, but people make time for what they really want to do.

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Registered: 07-17-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 3:14pm
Well, actually I've only called him 3 times since May (to his one) and when I showed up at his house, I was actually there to see his sister and just *hoping* to see him, so I don't think he thought anything of it. I'm pretty sure I'm not smothering him and I am fairly certain that he still thinks I'm fun and attractive, I just need an idea of how I can get him to think of me less as "that cute girl who I see sometimes" to "that fun/wonderful woman who really lights my fire"
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Registered: 07-17-2003
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 7:58pm
Any advice with that in mind?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 8:42pm
Are you saying that you've called him three times since May and he's not reciprocating? You sound like you really want this to happen, but you can't wish or force or make a guy be into you, sorry. Once you let this drop and move on and meet a guy who is truly interested in you the difference will be obvious and you'll be wondering why you wasted so much time on someone indifferent. This whole thing sounds very one sided...maybe you're reading much more into things than he is. I wholeheartedly agree with the first response that people MAKE time to pursue someone. You can push this, he'll sleep with you and then you'll be wondering why he lead you on?
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 07-20-2004 - 8:54pm
You don't want to hear that he's not interested enough to pursue the "real dating" with you. The only thing you can do is call him more and then keep on waiting. Eventually you'll realize that he just wanted to date you casually.