I need help

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Registered: 07-29-2004
I need help
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 10:27am
So i met this guy about 3 weeks ago. Hes really nice, and when we met and switched phone numbers he called me almost everyday. I went over to his house for the first date for pizza and some one on one time with him....it was great. Then we went out to a bar together the following weekend. I had to go away for vacation and he willing was going to pick me up at the airport at 1am in the morn. I went over to his house after the flight and stayed there till the am.( we both had the next day off) He called me when he knew i was on vacation, etc. My car was broken and he told me that if hehad a car he would drive me to where i needed to go, unfortunately his car was being used by his business partner. He called me the next day thought when i told him i drove my car anyways to make sure that i had gotten home safely and everything was okay.

But all of a sudden the phone calls stopped comming everyday. He called me a week ago wed we talked and then said he had to go but would talk to me later. never called so i called him friday to see if he wanted to do anything ( i was currenlty at a freinds house drinking) he said he had to do some stuff but would call me back later. So i didnt call him at all the rest of the weekend, but he called me back on monday and we talked for a while and it ended again with a ill call you back later.

So i called him last night to see what he was up to later that night and the weekend...no reply!! What should i do?? Whats going on? the only thing that i can say in his defense right now is that he has done most of the calling.

please give me some ideas!! Thanks

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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: sweet05
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 11:23am
Sounds like he may have just lost interest.

You can think a million scenarios, like he's met someone else or he's busy at work, or he's left the planet- whatever. Sometimes people just lose interest. What they thought they wanted, or thought you were just didn't fit.

Go out and find another guy to date. If this guy calls, you can tell him you're busy and be busy. Don't go chasing him though, you'll just seem like a stalker.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sweet05
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 1:08pm
Well, you two were hanging out and hooking up (if sex was involved) without really knowing one another. All you both knew was "I feel so great about myself because he/she finds me so attractive".

But infatuation fades...and feelings aren't permanent......and if he's found someone else that inspires that "high" it'll last for a few weeks and he'll move on from her.

But basically, you two don't know one another...you settled quickly into "I'll make myself easily and convenientially available to you without obligation to you"...and that is not "dating" whatsoever.

Erin

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