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| Sat, 07-10-2004 - 12:10pm |
I've just come out of a long relationship - six years - and I'm trying to get back on the dating circuit, so to speak. And I'm very rusty and more than a little unconfident and I just can't read the signs.
My problem is that there's this really cute guy at work, and he's started looking at me all the time. He gives me direct eye contact and he sort of momentarily stops and his mouth opens alittle.
Anyway - the other day I was in the hall way at work and he was coming toward me through the double doors - but when he opened the door he turned round on seeing me and went back inside. I felt really silly so went off to another part of the building - but then he came up there, saw me and ran off again. Am I that scary! Do you think he thinks I am a mad woman!!!! I've not given him 'come to bed' looks or anything like that. I've just glanced at him.
It's making work difficult for me. Offices huh!
But to cut a long story short - do you think he likes me? For future reference, I am so rusty, and unconfident, I need some help.
I don't think anything will come of me and him as I know nothing about him and another woman seems to be trying to attract him - and she's more alluring than me. I get too shy and go red in the face. But it's a start.

This could be one of two things:
You are obviously attracted to him, but he DOESN'T feel the same way...so he's avoiding you!
Or...
The man might not know how to approach you because of shyness or company policy that doesn't encourage socializing on the job?
If you're HONESTLY SURE that this man has feelings for you, why not leave a nice "friendship snail mail card" at his desk? You can write a short note inside the card telling him that you'd like to get together for a drink or cup of coffee after work.
Then see if he responds.
Pianoguy
Well - I'm not sure, I couldn't tell you if he feels the same way. I guess it's best to back off as it's work and I don't want to make him or (more importantly) myself feel uncomfortable. And I do - I've felt really fed up all weekend, which is silly as I don't even know the man.
And there's someone else flirting with him - I don't want to feel like I am back in the school yard arguing over some boy! It's a shame as I do like him. I guess I will just have to try my flirtations out of the work place.
It's a pretty safe bet that if the man isn't interested in making "eye contact" with you, he's probably not going to take up with you "socially!" This is the reason Pianoguy suggested the "snail mail card" at his desk .
This way...you've indicated your interest...and it's now his choice whether to respond to you or not?
Best of luck in whatever you decide to do.
Pianoguy