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I need HELP please!
| Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:25am |
I have a crush on this guy and I believe he may have one for me as well, however, I've never asked a guy out before. I need some advice on asking a guy out, I'm pretty shy and I'm not used to doing this kind of thing but my crush is too strong to just let it go and I get scared and nervous everytime I even think about asking him out. If anybody could give me advice on how to ask a guy out where he can't say no or take my nervousness away to ask him out I would GREATLY appreciate it. Happy Holidays!!!!

Bellina sends greetings! Well luv you sound young,a bit shy and are smitten,hoping your
fellow is too,right? Do you go to school or work together?Well in both cases ask him if he'd like to have lunch sometime or go to a Borders,books,for coffees,latte this is a casual setting.If all goes well and he accepts the invite,super! You'll get a better cluein of his feelings toward you in good converations.If there's mutual chemistry you'll
have some idea if there'll be more gettogethers. Do hope this suggestion helps in your desire to meet up with this shy fellow.By having an informal date inlieu of evening one,there's less tensions to get romantic too soon,especially if your both shy.Gives
you a sense of comfort and get acquainted to see if your personalities click,as well as
physical attractions.Best wishes in pursuit of a love or friendship,you'll know within time. Bellina
Personally? I wouldn't. I like the guy to have the balls to ask me out. If he can't then I take it as he's not that interested in me.
It seems so easy to say, "Oh he's shy. He wants to ask me out but I intimidate him". That may be true in a bit but if he were that interested, I don't think he'd run away and he'd make every teeny little effort to chat you up and eventually ask you out or atleast a number. I've seen it happen and it's happened to me with the shyest guy I met.
You can ask him out if you can't wait or won't wait for him and he may say yes, but it won't necessarily mean he's had an interest in you. What I would do if I were you is nudge him a bit. You can be friendly, smile and chit chat with him with lots of eye contact. If he can't take that bait, then I'd chalk it up to maybe he's just not that interested in me as I thought.
Best wishes to you and keep us posted.