I need help by tonight...Please!

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Registered: 08-09-2005
I need help by tonight...Please!
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Wed, 11-02-2005 - 2:12pm

Ok I met this guy last Thursday...had a great time. He calls the next day (Friday ) and asks me to his friends Brithday party. I go have a great time. We had a dinner date last night. He brought me flowers it was a great night. WELL....My friends and I are going out tonight just around town and my one friend is saying invite him invite him. But I don't know if I should I just seen him last night and I don't want to seem to foward. He said he would call tonight SO I don't know what to do I REALLY LIKE HIM SO MUCH ! and I don't want to blow it. My heart is saying invite him but....my mind is saying don't be so foward. ahhh I need help

thank you SO much

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Registered: 03-25-2004
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 3:13pm
ok, so it's been less than a week...hmmm....i would hold off on asking him out tonight. i am a big believer in doing what you want to do, but sometimes, you have to pace yourself. he says that he's going to call you tonight, so wait until he calls you. feel out the vibe, and then if it's good, most likely he'll ask you out, or you can ask him to do something this weekend. plus, it might be nice for him to know that you do have a life of your own (i.e. going out with friends tonight) - a woman with her own life is very attractive, i'm told. just my thoughts.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:14pm
Don't invite him. Time apart is good. It shows you have your own life and also relationships that start out fast have a tendency to fizzle out fast too. Take your time! And yes, it is somewhat forward and at this stage, men definitely enjoy the chase. It seems silly and old-fashioned, but let him do the asking for a while.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 5:33pm
See I was SO thinking that.....But I am just in la la land right now my heart is spining...<3
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 9:21am
Trust your instincts and have fun. This stage of a relationship is so great! But if things work out, you have all the time in the world to spend together. If you rush it and move too fast, you run the risk of doing too much too soon and that is a huge relationship wrecker. Good luck!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 11-03-2005 - 1:06pm
Don't do it. Let him make the next move. Sorry to be so old world but in the beginning I think that's a good way to go.
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