I need to know where i stand

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Registered: 05-05-2004
I need to know where i stand
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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 3:59pm
Hi, ok heres the thing, i met this girl on the internet and we talked for about a month before we actually met, well we have really hit it off! she is my same major in college and we have alot in common. so anyway i have been on like 5 dates with her and i really like her but i need to know where i stand! on her profile on the website she said she just wanted to have fun and not anything serious but, in person she says she really likes me! well what does she want?? a relationship or not? if i asked her would it scare her away? thanx bye.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 4:18pm
I'm not sure why you think really liking someone is inconsistent with not wanting anything serious. They are not. You can really like someone but still not want to be in a serious relationship with them or anyone.

The only way to find out what she wants is to ask. You can use her profile as an opener..., something like "You say in your profile that you're not looking for a serious relationship. Is that firm, or are you open to the possibility of one with the right person?" I would suggest that you explain that while obviously it's way too early to know whether the two of you are right for each other, you would prefer to date someone who is at least open to the possibility of a serious LTR (assuming that's what you want).

If she is scared off by you asking, then she's not right for you. Someone who is right for you cannot be scared off because they will be on the same page and want the same things.

Sheri