I need some advice please...
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 12:11am |
I met someone at work almost a year ago. We clicked instantly. We would talk and joke while at work. Then we started leaving little notes to each other in our mailboxes. I don't think either one of us was really aware that each of us was flirting with each other. Then he transferred to another department but before he left we exchanged phone numbers. This was a month ago. We started talking daily and then 4-6 times a day. About three weeks ago he asked me out and we went out last Saturday. It was wonderful. We had such a good time. We went to dinner and then walked in the park. He wanted me to go to church with him so I could meet his friends and family. I went to church with him the next day and met everyone. After that we went to a movie. We had a great time. We were getting very close. But our relationship never got more physical than hand holding and cuddling. He is 21 and I am 30. A few days ago he got a call from the Air Force saying that he got in and leave in 3 months. The next day he called and told me he wanted to just be friends. I felt like a bombshell had just been dropped. I called him and asked for an explanation. We talked today and he told me that he's going through a lot and with the age difference there are things that he hasn't experienced and doesn't know about himself and he still really wants to be friends. He said this was very hard for him to do but he wanted to end it before emotions got even more intense. He told me that if we are meant to be together it will happen and that either there is someone else out there for each of us or this is a test. I do really want his friendship but I'm so sad. I really miss talking to him as much as I was and how close we were getting. But I can really understand his need to do what he needs to do. I guess I just need some advice to get through this. I don't know exactly how to be "friends" with someone I feel more for. I don’t want to lose this relationship and it’s possible that it just needs some time. But I really miss him. He was the first person I talked to in the morning and the last before bed and I guess I feel like not only did I lose such a promising relationship but one of my best friends. Lately he will call me and if I'm not available he'll leave a message abd then when I do call him back he takes a week to return my call. I feel like each time this happens he just doesn't care anymore. I'm almost to the point I don't want to talk to him anymore and I'm thinking maybe we just shouldn't try to be friends. Any suggestions?