i need some advice please
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i need some advice please
| Thu, 09-16-2004 - 12:16pm |
I met this guy over the internet a couple of days ago. We hit it off and decided to meet. We hung out for awhile and ended up enjoying eachothers company and had lots in common. I had my reserves about meeting someone over the internet but when we net and hung out for a couple of hours i felt very comfortable with him. We ended up going back to my house, i know, i know thats not good, and making out. We didnt have sex but we did make out. When he was getting ready to leave he acted very strange and that made me feel very strange in turn. He told me before he left something like "well i hope i can talk to you again sometime soon." I know it has only been a few days but Im just curious to know what people who have been in similar situations think. Do you think he really wants to hang out again or is that the end of that? Thanks for your opinions

I also think that in future you should be a little more careful with anyone you meet from the internet. You can get a false sense of security, as you did, when you are attracted to someone. I would just caution against bringing anyone home. It just sends out the wrong impression, the guy will expect that he's going to get some physical action, even if you just want to keep chatting.
I think after you've met someone in person in a public place a few times, then you can judge them a little more. Most people are on their best behaviour during a first meeting. But if there's ever ANYTHING that doesn't feel right, listen to that. You shouldn't accept a ride home, or have them pick you up at your place. If the guy is a creep, do you really want them to know where you live? I went on a date with a guy I met at a coffee shop- seemed really nice and he ended up walking me home after our date. But then he started just showing up at my door unnanounced at all times of the day and night, that was scary. Thankfully I had a male roommate who answered the door in his underwear and the guy quit coming around.
By all means, I hope you have fun dating, just be careful. The only watching out for your best interests is you, remember that. Also, keep alcohol out of the mix while dating- it can lower your defenses that can literally save your life.
Alison