i need some help with paranoia
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i need some help with paranoia
| Fri, 11-04-2005 - 2:31pm |
I feel like i'm torturing myself...
I've been going out with this great guy for a month and a half, everything is good as we've been friends for 2 years before this. The problem is that the guy i was with before cheated on me and lied during the whole relationship. I dumped him as soon as i discovered, but i was depressed for 3 months and now have a lot of trouble trusting people, including my current boyfriend. I don't think he would cheat on me, but i always think he's going to change his mind and dump me, that he doesn't really care about me that much, etc..
for example tonight we were supposed to see each other but he sent me a text message to say that he won't come because he has to study. I know he works a lot, but it's friday night, he has the whole weekend to study if he wants ! the result is that i just had an anxiety attack thinking about this, it just gets worse and worse.
I haven't told him anything because i feel stupid and i don't want to seem like this pathetic clinging girl, during our 2 years of friendship he saw i was the exact opposite and that's one of the reason he asked me to be his girlfriend. please i need some help, i really feel like i'm hurting myself for no reason.
I've been going out with this great guy for a month and a half, everything is good as we've been friends for 2 years before this. The problem is that the guy i was with before cheated on me and lied during the whole relationship. I dumped him as soon as i discovered, but i was depressed for 3 months and now have a lot of trouble trusting people, including my current boyfriend. I don't think he would cheat on me, but i always think he's going to change his mind and dump me, that he doesn't really care about me that much, etc..
for example tonight we were supposed to see each other but he sent me a text message to say that he won't come because he has to study. I know he works a lot, but it's friday night, he has the whole weekend to study if he wants ! the result is that i just had an anxiety attack thinking about this, it just gets worse and worse.
I haven't told him anything because i feel stupid and i don't want to seem like this pathetic clinging girl, during our 2 years of friendship he saw i was the exact opposite and that's one of the reason he asked me to be his girlfriend. please i need some help, i really feel like i'm hurting myself for no reason.

well...i dont think you overreacting exactly...canceling a date using text message for a friday night day is kinda fishy. I mean I dont know too many people who study on Friday nights unless its for a MAJOR exam on Monday, so I would think something of it. BUT, if i were you I would let it go, don't act like you are mad....he MAY be studying and infact be true, but he could have rescheduled for Saturday, but I don't know you relationship.
Just let it go, go out with friends or go see a movie or something. DO whatever you can to distract yourself from this negative feeling. If he is not feeling you anymore, you will eventually find out. Just try to forget about it and have fun, nothing is better going out dancing and dining with friends to take your mind off things. I hope it works out for you. GOod luck :)
Honey, one thing young women do is they disregard their own lives and fun for the sake of male attention.
That's what you're doing.
It's lame that he text messaged to cancel a date. Rather than brooding over it you should be able to call a girlfriend and go do something fun. Or, you could do something on your own and enjoy your evening.
At some point you must become more confident and less afraid of the world around you. One guy being a moron shouldn't throw you into a panic as it's doing.
If you are worth having, act like it.