I need some opinions!

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Registered: 05-10-2004
I need some opinions!
Mon, 05-10-2004 - 10:03pm
I've been dating a guy for two years. A year ago he moved about two hours away for a job, so we see each other about once a week. My bf was cheated on by his first love and she hurt him really bad and recently, his sister got a divorce. Right near the end , before the divorce, his sister was talking to another man. The divorce was underway. My boyfriend was/is very close to his now former brother-in-law and he sympathizes with him a lot. Well during the divorce, I went out with an old guy friend and many of our friends from college. It was completely innocent. I'm friends with the guy but I have no romantic interest in him whatsoever and he feels the same about me. Well since that time my boyfriend has been distant off and on. He just recently told me that he doesn't trust me as much as he did. Because of that, he says he lost interest. However, this only comes about when he spends time with the ex brother-in-law. Normally we do fine and for the most part he is open with me. He's open with telling me he loves me and he's happy when we're actually together. His family can even tell when he's talked to me by the mood he's in. If he's grumpy he hasn't etc....Could it be the former brother-in-law is telling him things, or is it spending time with him that reminds him about getting hurt? Could it be him getting scared of getting close, thinking I'll leave him? He told me that's part of it, but could that be the real reason? I can understand being afraid of getting hurt, but what can I do to prove to him he's it for me? How can I prove to him he can trust me?