I need someone else's opinion!

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Registered: 11-22-2006
I need someone else's opinion!
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 2:49pm
So my boyfriend and I broke up this past September. We were at different points in our lives in what we wanted to do (we're both young...23). We still remain great friends and we still hang out at least once a week since we broke up. We still have sex with each and go out to a bar for drinks or dinner. The past 2 months though he's been sending me texts and calling me and says how he wishes I was there with him and when we go out and have a few drinks he starts telling me how much he still loves me and only wants to spend his life with me. Well I've been getting tired of hearing it b/c I always tell him if you feel that way then talk to me when we're not drinking and you'llhave to prove that's how you really feel. Well he never does. He just acts his regular flirty self the next day. While I'm not ready just now to get back with him, and I enjoy how our relationship is now, am I being stupid to even think what he is saying is true? I still care about him too, and would love to date him again eventually, and I don't know if i'm just beliving him b/c of that. I guess I just always hear when people drink what they say is usually the truth, b/c its easier to honest. Please you opinion! Thanks in advance!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 3:00pm

stinkyfeet001...

First...PG isn't going to ask you the reason for your ivillage user name. Most members who are reading this probably have their own thoughts about the subject?

If the 2 of you enjoy having SEX and drinking together...GREAT! You can maintain the status quo forever. HOWEVER......if your official breakup was in September and we're practically finished with October....don't you think 6 months is a long enough time to expect your (former) b/f's attitude to change?

I'm sure he's happy with things the way they are....even though you apparently AREN'T?

So this leaves you with the decision to continue down the same path...or say: "Hasta La Vista, Baby" in favor of somebody else!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 11-22-2006
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 3:18pm
haha its my nickname for my dog. Whenever i take him for a walk outside his feet always become dirty and i have to wash them. My feet smell good! I guess ur right. I am happy how things are now, we both enjoy each other. I just don't need to hear someone say they love me if and want to be with me if they're not going to go through with it. I'm happy to have fun. We were in a 2 year relationship, so I'm not ready to be tied down again. What is ap polite way to get him to stop, w/o ruining our friendship and current situation. (hey we get along and its easy...there's nothing wrong with that ;)