I Need Suggesttions

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Registered: 03-26-2006
I Need Suggesttions
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Wed, 07-05-2006 - 9:13am

Ok, I need suggestions on how to get over a loser. I've gotten to be really pathetic. I drunk dialed him a couple of times this weekend. I had to force myself not to call him last night. He has a lot of stuff going on in his life right now, and its obvious he doesn't have the time to deal with me and he just doesn't want to in general. He is over me. Help me get over him?

I went back to online dating and scoped out people at the pool this weekend, but still he is always in my mind. I'm not sure if I just miss him doting over me or him calling me or what.

Maybe I should take some classes or something.

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Registered: 06-24-2005
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 12:52pm

Don't you hate feeling like that? We've all been there, that post break-up time where we miss being with someone, ANYONE. Don't call, whatever you do, don't call. If you are thinking about calling, make yourself busy, take yourself shopping, clean something, etc etc. If you're drunk dialing, don't drink alone, keep a buddy with you to keep you from calling OR call a friend instead.

You say he's a loser...so write down everything you didn't like about him or the reasons he was wrong for you. You can look back at that when you start thinking of him. This feeling goes away eventually, just takes some time. My guess is you maybe don't miss him, but miss having someone around and being in love. Make sure you understand how the two are different and can identify on you're feeling.

You'll be okay, this will pass, I promise. Just don't call (anymore) and keep your dignity.

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Registered: 11-24-2004
Wed, 07-05-2006 - 1:56pm
When you're going through the post break-up phase, it's best not to try to replace him. If you do, you'll end up comparing every other guy to him, and you most likely won't pick any of those guys anyway. Let time heal your emotions. Keep busy with friends and don't call him. You'll be angrier at yourself if you call him and he rejects you again.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 4:58pm
You definitely need to occupy yourself but by doing things you enjoy, hanging with people who have positive energy.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 2:40pm
I promise you - one day you'll think you're better off not in this relationship.
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