I really cant get over him!

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Registered: 11-24-2004
I really cant get over him!
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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 10:53am

Hi ya
Mines a long one! let me explain the sitation.

I had been wit my ex boyfriend (john) 4 2 years and after a year and half i started messing him about! i had enough as i am only 16, i didnt wanna end it wit him as i did still love him. Then i got introduced to his mate at work called mark who i really fancied and i knew he really liked me the only problem was he had a girlfriend as well. this didnt matter and finally he spilt up wit his girlfriend and i split up wit my boyfriend, i finally thought i had found some1 who wud make me HAPPY! so we got together and everything was ok not great we did have our rows but dont all couples???he told me he loved me and our sex life was great! we were seeing each other for about 2 months and things were getting serious i was falling for him big time (so i thought) 3 days ago he spilt up with me over a text message i was in bits!i was so confused, he had gone up to london to see his family for the weekend and everything was fine before he left! i spoke to him on the fone later that night and he told me he didnt wanna be tied down and jus wanted to be single. As a rebound i met up wit john and out of convo he sed that mark was going out wit his ex girlfriend again the one he spilt up with to be with me!( by the way jonh didnt no about me and mark) i felt even more worse! i text him asking him if this was true and he hasnt relpied so ive changed my number completely as a way of getting over him. Im so hurt, i cant eat or sleep or stop thinking about him and now i dunno whether i wanna get bk with my ex again but is it jus coz im lonely?? how could he get bk with his ex after he told me he wanted to be single? wot did i do wrong? i also found out that he was seeing loads of girls behind me bk too!

Please help any advice
sorry 4 it being so long!
thanks
Hayley x

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Registered: 06-05-2004
Wed, 11-24-2004 - 6:33pm

Hi Haley,

I am trying to understand your post.... you said that you were with your boyfriend for 2 years and then you messed up on him? Then you met his mate (does that mean his friend??) that you liked but he had a girlfriend. You said 'this didn't matter'... did you mean that you didn't care that he had a girlfriend? Then you and he both broke up with your boy/girlfriend and got together. Now, as a rebound you meet up with your ex John and he tells you that this new guy Mark went back to his ex-girlfriend... You tried to reach him to find out if it was true and he didn't respond. You're mad because Mark went back to his ex even though 'as a rebound' you met up with John. I don't get it, you are doing the same things to each other and now you can't sleep? If I understood correctly, I think you just became the victim of 'what goes around comes around' You cheated on your boyfriend, then met up with another and now this other is back with his ex and you are hurt? I'm sorry, but I think you had it coming. Also, if you found out he has been seeing loads of girls behind your back, why stress over the loser? If I misunderstood your post, I apologize but if I didn't... well everything I said stands.