I really need advice...please help.
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I really need advice...please help.
| Sun, 01-08-2006 - 6:38pm |
I work with a guy that I HAD a crush on. It's been confusing to say the least...but he's been impossible. He used to drive me to work until I needed a break from him. It was my decision after he couldn't just come out and reject me, he's just hyper and after I forgave him he went and lied to me saying after his sick dad he takes care of passes away he'd look for companionship with me. Then a week later he said he couldn't see himself tied down to one person. Then I found out by rumors that he has a girlfriend now. Gotta love it. Well, even after all of that I want to be on good terms at work with him. That is the bottom line. There is a lot of tension between us even though I gave him an apology card and wrote a note expressing why I was sorry. He can't even look at me let alone in my eyes. I asked him if he read the note in it and he said no he's not a reader!!! He reads the newspaper everyday so I caught him in a lie like when he said "it's not you...it's me!" It hurts but I want to have a good work relationship since he is an assistant manager...it would be cool if we could become friends eventually but I don't see it happening soon...I'd be just happy to be on good terms with him. Would you give up or try pursuing a work friendship? How would you go about doing this? Thank you!

I would leave it alone and only talk to him when you need to. The guy sounds unstable, you don't need a friend like that at work b/c lord only knows what he may do. And stop apologizing! You've done it a few times, he sounds like a jerk.
Thank you for your reply. I do agree with you and will heed your advice. I admit that I am a bit of a softy so if I don't take your advice I know it'll be worse than it is now. He is a jerk. It's so hard to find a good man. Thanks again! :)
Just be polite to him as you would to anyone else.
Thanks for replying. Yeah...he is a jerk and not nice now that I see how he handled everything. You are right I thought he was like me because we had tons of things in common and are just very similiar except for the flaws. I guess, I didn't realize how bad his flaws really were...I just thought we could be work buds so we could be on good terms at work instead of be on his crap list like I am now. Oh well, it all led down to the fact of miscommunications...and I tried resolving my part in it. I give up on him now though.