I split off communication with him...

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Registered: 05-30-2007
I split off communication with him...
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 8:34pm
A couple of years ago, I met a guy online. (Let's call him bob). I had been talking to Bob everyday for about one year, then we exchanged phone numbers. It was too good to be true, we talked every night on the phone, sometimes 5 hours at a time. It had been 2 years, and we still did not see each other face to face. I got frustrated, I loved Bob, but unable to see each other, I gave up. I figured it would not be fare to myself, or him, to dedicate so much time on something that would probbally not work out. I told him good-bye, and split off all communication with him, phone, e-mails, aim/aol, etc. So here I am 6 months later, thinking of Bob everyday, regretting what I did. What should I do? Should I just move on? Call him? I feel if we do come in contact again, we could be able to meet in person.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 8:54pm
I don't understand why the two of you never did meet in person. What prevented that from happening? You can contact him and give a shot. He may be happy to hear from you again. The reason for your "breakup" is not one that would prevent someone from reconnecting with you, like cheating.
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Registered: 05-30-2007
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 9:00pm
We had transportation problems. One hour away was so close, yet so far. Each of us did not have a car, or transportation. But now, we each have a car.
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Registered: 01-14-2006
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 1:21pm
Go for it.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 1:36pm

As I posted on the OLD board, I think that you should not contact this guy.

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 2:23pm

Let me tell you something...6 months ago I would have agreed with your statement: "it is impossible to be in love with someone you've never met." Because that is a rational statement. But now, 6 months later, I think it is possible to have those feelings. I am dealing with some emotions right now from a similar type of situation. I have always said, "never say never" and in this case, I'm glad I did.

m8trix...how old are both of you?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 3:39pm
While I think it's possible to have strong feelings and infatuation, I still say that you cannot love someone fully until you spend time with them.

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 5:01pm
I am 17 and he is 19.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 10:43pm
I agree with alot of what you say here. True love is developed by sharing time together and enduring the good and the bad. I couldn't believe it myself...and I repeatedly said to myself, "okay, you are sane. You are normal. This does not make sense." But it doesnt matter anyway because I'll never meet the guy.
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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 10:46pm
m8trix, you have alot of opportunity ahead of you to meet someone who will ask you out on a date sooner than 2 years. But the choice is yours. I had a feeling the two of you were young when you mentioned the lack of transportation.
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Registered: 06-03-2007
Mon, 06-04-2007 - 12:06am
I agree with snafu. There's a whole world to meet out there.