I think he cares...am I overanalyzing?
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I think he cares...am I overanalyzing?
| Sun, 10-31-2004 - 1:29am |
I'm a college student who met a guy who is a few years older than me. We saw each other every day in class, went out to dinner, and three weeks later he asked me over to his parent's house (about 1/2 hour away from campus) to stargaze in his backyard. We talked on the phone every now and then and went out to dinner about 2 weeks later, this past Tuesday. I called him Wednesday late at night to go out for ice cream and he made every effort he could to go with me, even though he had somewhere he had to be first. The next night he called wanting to know if I could spent all of Friday hiking with him at a national park about a 3-4 hour drive away. I agreed and we had the most wonderful day and shared a lot of our emotions/thoughts/feelings with each other. He treats me with a lot of care and concern and he frequently slips in little mentions of the future. We drove home late last night and I spent the night at his parent's home and got to meet more of the family this time and eat breakfast with them. He seemed like he really wanted me to meet his family and be part of that portion of his life.
Anyway, he's a sensitive, shy guy who seems very nonverbal about feelings. I guess what I'm wanting to know is if he has more-than-friends feelings for me, and how on earth I am supposed to decipher his body language, facial expressions, actions, etc. My gut feeling tells me that he cares about me, but part of me is afraid of rejection/disappointment, so I review every little thing he's said this past week and try to interpret it as giving me a "you're only a friend" vibe. But even that explanation does not make complete sense when viewed in context with his behavior. Any insight? Thanks!

If you allow yourself to be constrained by fear, uncertainty and doubt (FUD) you will be unable to participate equally in any type of relationship. If you are constantly searching for potential negatives you will limit your possibilities for the positive. If all of this becomes visible to him, he will get the indication that you don't care about him or have much interest in him. You will be creating your own destiny through your choice of actions.
It seems that many women will search for negatives as a means to end a relationship while many men will look for the positives to keep a woman in his life. Overanalyzing and approaching a relationship based on FUD is not condusive to a positive outcome.
Life is a lot more fun when you focus on the positives. Enjoy life .... PLEASE.