I think he is flirting

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Registered: 04-06-2006
I think he is flirting
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Sat, 07-22-2006 - 2:19pm
Here this guy at work whom I think is flirting with me: he stares, tries to stand close to me when he can, like really close sometime and this is been going on for couple of months now.I've tried to talk to him once or twice but I don't really know how to do this at work, even though we don't really work together it is on the same place and sometimes in front of a lot of people so it gets to be really uncomfortable.I do like him a lot so I was thinking about sending him an email asking him out for lunch or coffee sometime, but I do not want to seem too desperate either, but I think he will loose interest if nothing happens soon. How should I do this?
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 4:15am
This doesn't seem flirting to me, it seems to be sexual harrassment in the job place. He's staring at you and getting too close to you to the point that it makes you uncomfortable. Why in hell would you want to go out witn this creepy guy? He's testing your limits and so far you've not said peep about it. He does it in front of co-workers, how sick is that?? In his sick mind he's thinking "it's OK to keep on staring at her and getting too close ignoring your boundaries so maybe next week I could grab her in the butt". If it makes you feel uncomfortable then you should put a stop to it. Next time he's too close tell him off loudly so everyone can hear you..."you're standing too close to me". That would do it. The guy is not backing off I assure you. If you e-mail him to ask him out you're signing the "I want sex without strings attached" type of message. He's disrespectful and rude.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 11:07am

I don't see why it's up to you to do anything about setting up a date with this guy. He started the whole thing by flirting. And if a man is bold enough to stare at you and stand very close to you, he should be man enough to ask you out... if he's actually interested in dating you.

Otherwise, I agree with the first poster that this sounds like a creep who is invading your space and coming very close to being a sexual harrasser, especially since his behavior sometimes makes you uncomfortable.

What is it you like about him?? Have you ever had a proper conversation with him?

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 1:25pm
IF he likes you, he'll get around to asking you out.
I wouldn't ask him.
And so what if he loses interest quickly. That just shows you his interest was probably luke warm to nothing.
Don't chase a man. Give him the opportunity. That way you'll know you are his type, he's interested in you and wants to get to know you by taking a risk and asking you out.
His staring and standing close to you may seem flattering but nothing's more flattering than to put himself out there and atleast ask you for lunch. Aren't you worth that? Why should you put yourself out there at the risk of being rejected and you don't even know if he's available or even interested in wanting to go out with you. He's staring at you. Let him ask you out and if not, then chances are he wasn't that interested or he has a girlfriend. That's always been my experience with guys like that.
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Registered: 04-06-2006
Sun, 07-23-2006 - 9:26pm
well I will confess I do like him physically, he is very smart as well and I even admire him for that,and all conversations I had with himm are work related nothing personal so far.
Thanks a lot for your reply