I Think He Is Lying...and Being Selfish
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I Think He Is Lying...and Being Selfish
| Wed, 09-22-2004 - 12:39pm |
Greetings all,
Well here I am back again with a whole new ( sort of new ) set of problems. The matter with me and my landlord/ lover has resolved itself. I have decided that I want nothing else to do with him besides our professional relationship. But get this... Some time ago, let's say four years or so ago, I was involved with this man that was a considerable amount older than me. We got along great, we went out almost every night, He would wine me ad dine me and it was never about sex. In fact we didn't become intimate until after about 6 weeks of dating or so. ( The decision to wait that long was mostly his ) Everything was great. The only problem was that he was already involved in a relationship with a woman whom he was living with. I knew at the time that this was not a situation that I wanted to involve myself with, but because he kept " her " a secret for a few days I was already more than intrigued by him by the time he confessed to being with her.
Needlees to say, he claimed that he ws not in love with her and that he would leave her, and Blah, Blah, Blah. Well to make a long story short we dated for about 5 months before i couldn't take it anymore and ended it. I told him that I could not be the "other" woman anymore, I told him that my own self respect and ego would not allow me to continue lusting after another woman's man. He claimed to be devestated but I severed all ties and went on with my life.
He tried to resurface a few times since our initial break up and each time I find that i am receptive at first, but when I ask him about "her" they are still together. Last week we went out on a date and we had a great time, all of those feelings started to creep back again, but I am feeling like this is a hopeless situation. I feel like if he is truly unhappy withthis woman he would have left her already whether we are trying to work on our relationship or not. The fact that he continues to live with her suggests to me that what we had ( have ) is no where near as deep as what he sahres with " her" Even though he claims to love me and NOT HER.
I think he is full of shyt... What do you think?
Well here I am back again with a whole new ( sort of new ) set of problems. The matter with me and my landlord/ lover has resolved itself. I have decided that I want nothing else to do with him besides our professional relationship. But get this... Some time ago, let's say four years or so ago, I was involved with this man that was a considerable amount older than me. We got along great, we went out almost every night, He would wine me ad dine me and it was never about sex. In fact we didn't become intimate until after about 6 weeks of dating or so. ( The decision to wait that long was mostly his ) Everything was great. The only problem was that he was already involved in a relationship with a woman whom he was living with. I knew at the time that this was not a situation that I wanted to involve myself with, but because he kept " her " a secret for a few days I was already more than intrigued by him by the time he confessed to being with her.
Needlees to say, he claimed that he ws not in love with her and that he would leave her, and Blah, Blah, Blah. Well to make a long story short we dated for about 5 months before i couldn't take it anymore and ended it. I told him that I could not be the "other" woman anymore, I told him that my own self respect and ego would not allow me to continue lusting after another woman's man. He claimed to be devestated but I severed all ties and went on with my life.
He tried to resurface a few times since our initial break up and each time I find that i am receptive at first, but when I ask him about "her" they are still together. Last week we went out on a date and we had a great time, all of those feelings started to creep back again, but I am feeling like this is a hopeless situation. I feel like if he is truly unhappy withthis woman he would have left her already whether we are trying to work on our relationship or not. The fact that he continues to live with her suggests to me that what we had ( have ) is no where near as deep as what he sahres with " her" Even though he claims to love me and NOT HER.
I think he is full of shyt... What do you think?

Do not get involved if he is still with the other girl. Who knows why he is doing what he is doing. You may never know, and sounds like this guy is so confused he doesn't know. Who wants a guy that is confused and doesn't know what he wants? Tell him NO, and tell him why. Then don't go out with him.
Who cares if he is full of it. You need to look at yourself and your actions and make effective decisions based on facts and your values & standards. Actions speak louder than words so make the decision that is right for you and your life.
Spiceman's right... this is YOUR responsibility.
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