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| Fri, 03-19-2004 - 2:11pm |
I've been dating a great guy from 8 months where we have been seeing eachother regularly on weekends and ussually once or twice a week.
Last weekend, he made plans for Saturday with a friend, and didn't really let me know till right before. I was alittle upset but more for the short notice, because I would have made other plans.
Well he just calls me at work to see if I want to go to the movies tonight -- I said, no why don't we go tomorrow (Saturday), because I have to work late tnight and it's just too rushed to go after work on Friday. He said "oh I think Jeff wants to rent movies".
I'm sick to my stomach, mad and very anxious right now. I'm I overreacting? Being paranoid that I am getting that brush off?
I want to know if I should say something tonight, I want to say something, but I don't what to sound possessive when I say it.
Should I just relax and deal with it or is this a warning sign he wants space?
What should I say tonight??
Thank you so much -- Amy

Why woudn't have you made other plans????? He did. It's not like he ditch you for his friend.
,Hi
You are definitely on the right board.
Nip this in the bud - tell him that from now on if you make plans you expect him to keep them unless there is an emergency. Unless you have standing plans every weekend, make other plans if he doesn't let you know by wednesday evening if the two of you have plans and do not accept last minute plans.