I think it's over?
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| Tue, 09-07-2004 - 4:39pm |
Hello Everyone -
I am a rulesy-type of girl who fell off the bandwagon. I'm dating
someone long distance, who I've dated before but we broke up due to
the long distance circumstance. This is a bit long:
We ran into each other again back in May and decided to go ahead with
another go at it. Although he expressed he was fearful of the long
distance, (as I was too) he really felt we had something and he
wanted to take the chance to put himself out there to me.
Fast forward to the present. We have finally spent a bit of time
together. Towards the end of the time together, it was a rather
stressful time for both of us - he was busy and caught up with a
bunch of major problems at his house, and I was running around with
my friends.
The last night together, given that I was so extremely tired and
burnt out, a little tipsy (and now curious as to where this was all
going since he admitted he wasn't seeing anyone else), I stupidly
blurted out that we had to talk and see where this was going.
He, of course, says he hasn't wrapped his head around this and needs
a few days to think about it. (Note, he mentioned that his thoughts
about getting back together would have a whole lot of 'meaning'
attached to it, that things would progress in a fast manner).
Instead of just letting this go (b/c now I'm frustrated and clearly
broken a rule), I get into this whole point about how I don't want to
be someone's afterthought and want someone who knows what they want
from the relationship. He said I sounded like I wanted to be the
center of someone's world and that was something he couldn't do for
me quite yet. After this mess of communication, I just went to bed.
When I got up in the morning, I said - I just wanted a bit of
reassurance from you from where we were at and made it clear I did
NOT want nor ask for a major commitment. He said we both clearly
overthought things and he thought everything was fine up until that
point. UGH! I could kill myself. But, when I left we hugged, we
kissed and he said at least a few times we would talk this out.
Of course, I've made no attempts to contact (per usual)so he can
escape into his cave. It hasn't even been a day yet so I'm not
concerned but I'm curious if I've totally blown it or if it might be
salvagable?!
