I TOLD HIM!

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Registered: 11-08-2005
I TOLD HIM!
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 10:24pm

I went to Bens house this weekend. I told him about the baby. He held me as we both cried. He told me that I am his best friend and he loves me dearly, however this doesn't make him in love with me. He told me he would like me to keep this baby, (of course I am ). He told me that he would move closer to home, so he could be there for me and the baby. In a way after the crying and emotional breakdown, he smiled at me and said "everything is going to be just fine, we'll be ok" We will just have to sort out the detail, and with proper planning, we can make this work. I than went to the bathroom, and i over heard him on the phone. He had called his mom, and he said "Emma is having my baby, my baby" He sounded so proud. When it was time for me to go home, he walked me to my car, held my head and kissed me, than he bent down and kissed my stomach. He has callde me everyday since to see how I am doing. Today he invited me to dinner and a movie, he called it "our bonding time" The only thing is after every call he tells me he loves me...what am I suppose to say? He told me he loves me, but he's not in love with me...so what do I say? I love him too, only I know I am in love with him, so I just say me too. I don't want to get my emotions all mixed up.(They are mixed up enough right now)

Thanks for all the help...
Emma

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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: lost_n_lonely
Tue, 01-31-2006 - 8:27am
I think this man might be doing more harm than good. He claims he isn't in love with you but is spending a great deal of time with you. You are in love with him. It is very nice that he is trying very hard to be kind under the circumstances but if a relationship with him is going to go nowhere you might want to consider worrying more about how you are going to raise this child alone successfully than whether this man's feelings might ever change.