I want to be friends!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-1998
I want to be friends!
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Sat, 11-13-2004 - 8:50am
I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks and I've really enjoyed his company. We get along really well...but the romantic chemistry's just not there (not for me, anyway).

I really want to keep hanging out with him, but I dont' want to lead him on...how can i let him know this without hurting his feelings? He seems like a super sensitive guy.

He's asked me to the movies this weekend...what should I do? Get a group together...or not go?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2004
Sat, 11-13-2004 - 9:10am
I think that by going out with him you will be leading him on or at least giving him hope for a possible future relationship. I know this becasue I remained friends with a guy I really liked in hopes that he would come around and realize how great I was! SMILE. It didn't work and I only ended up getting hurt time and again. In fact I just this past week told him no contact whatsoever for at least 6 months. You may want to tell him again (if you have done so already) that you only want to be friends and not expect anything from you. If he wants to do this, it will be at his own heart's risk. take care. Lucy