I want him so much,it's scary!!!

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Registered: 06-23-2004
I want him so much,it's scary!!!
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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:10am
I'm confused!

I'm in love with my best friend and he doesn't know it!He recently got engaged to a friend of mine and I've been having these serious jealousy pangs since.I didn't realise just how deep my feelings were until he told me he was getting married to her.I can't stand being around them when they're together,and I can't stomach her coming to me and acting all nice when really, she sees me as a threat.I've been there for my friend in times of need,covered for him and helped him out of situations.I've been his confidante;he's shared stuff with me that he can't tell his fiancee.This sort of bothers me a bit:if he's going to marry the girl,shouldn't they be able to talk to each other about anything?And the worst thing is that,he's been sending me signals,or I think they are.When we hug,I hold him close to my chest so he can feel how soft my bosom is;sometimes I run my hand lightly across his back and he holds my waist tightly;when I can,I plant surreptitious kisses on his cheek or close to his mouth.I can't seem to help myself.All I think of now is him making love to me(I'm a virgin).

I want him badly and yet I can't have him!!!

Help!!!
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:35am
Yikes!
Lilypie Baby Days

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:59pm
I'd have to agree with Wendie. He's marrying someone else. I'm wondering why he's marrying her if he can't talke to her about the things he share with you. When you are truly in love with someone you should be able to share EVERYTHING with the other person. And why is he sending you signals? Well, You are the FORBIDDEN FRUIT! You always want what you can't have. You want him, but he's marrying someone else. He wants you, but he's marrying someone else. You are both playing with fire. This man is off limits. And YOU are off limits for him. Why is he this guy even getting married? How old are you guys? I'm guessing you are pretty young, maybe early early 20's.
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Registered: 06-05-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 1:55pm
Hi,

I really feel for you. I had a best friend for over 20 years, I was 16 and he was 21 when we met. We became good friends because I was too young for him at the time and years later we realized our friendship was much too special to risk ruining if we got involved and it didn't work out. Anyhow, he was able to tell me anything and everything he wouldn't tell his girlfriends and he would always hug me tight and even kiss me on the lips (a friendly closed mouth kiss)everytime we saw each other. That said, he never saw me as anything more than just a very good friend. If he is marrying someone else, it could very well be because while he loves you, he may love you as a friend and would not even consider risking that great friendship with a relationship that could one day fail. You know, platonic friendships between men and women or so precious that I would take that over a relationship with a man because you know they (the friends) will always be there for you. Best of luck to you.