I want you, what does that really means?
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| Fri, 11-26-2004 - 2:22pm |
I met this guy about 7-mos ago and we both said that we were looking for someone to hang out with, because I was just out of a bad relationship, and he was just out of a divorce at that time for 9-mos. so friends we opt to be, but he also made me aware that he was seeing someone, but it wasn't a committed relationship, but we continue going out to lunch like once a week for the next 6-mos and finally we had a real date, spent the night out, and the next week things went on as always with the lunches, and he constantly tells me how compatible we are, and the chemistry is there, how comfortable he feels around me, he wants me, but I'm confused because when we're together, we are acting like we're in love, holding hands, hugging, strong public displays of affection. I'm confused, should I inquire about the person he originally told me about?
Thanks!
kim

I would work from the assumption that he "wants" you in the physical sense, not in the "I can't imagine spending the rest of my life without you as my wife" sense.
Yes, definitely ask about the woman he was dating, as well as what type of r'ship he is looking for, in order to find out if you're on the same page.
Sheri
Greetings Kim,
Bellina here! This fellow sounds a bit complex but worth investing time with.
After knowing him 7 mos,and states came from a bad relationship,you're wise in taking
things slow as friends.This is the absolute best way to know if you're headed toward
the same path in love,or remain good friends.Ask him about this other gal pal,and
if he's honest as to whether its just friendship, super. It's positive in that he's demonstratively affection in public.From my passed experience it takes time to
truly know your love potentials character,both intellectual as well as physical attractions,common interests,goals,hobbies,etc..I've fallen in love all too swiftly and
gotten my heart smashed in pieces.In my twenties,out of college,thought I'd found my
prince charming,within 2 months,started being quite affectionate,intimate,seeing him
nearly daily.Life seemed complete,both of us had mutual careers in the art field,me
a designer,he was an artist/writer for a magazine.We loved same music,theater,gourmet
cooking,reading,museums,backgrounds similar,etc. He finally seemed to complete my life
on every level.Suddenly things changed after he took a job in Germany,as we were both
residing in England.Tried to meet on weekends via railway midpoint cities. Didn't last,too
difficult for me to leave my job.Told him to be patient,we'd plan a holiday,and this
was appealing.Never came to fruition,due to his busy magazine article deadlines,my long
work week( 6 days),just begun freelance as home designer.Romance fizzled,distance didn't
permit us to keep the embers burning.He wanted me to reside in Germany,I said just got
established in clients,he couldn't wait.P.S. found a German gal who gave him physical
needs,etc.Learned thru a letter,coward couldn't ring me.Devastated me,took me nearly a year to date again.Anyway it helps to be honest from the beginning,what his intentions are,friends,or a love connection.Men can be very mysterious if we don't find out from the start whether we're on the same page. Best,best wishes in your quest! Bellina
instead of inquiring about 'other women' ask him if y'all are on the same page
you should probably lay things out before it goes any further
Edited 11/26/2004 8:27 pm ET ET by hockeybabe83