if he doesn't call???
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| Mon, 10-10-2005 - 5:37pm |
I met a guy saturday and gave him my number (I was working and didnt know how long he would stick around and was in a position I couldnt talk too much). He ended up stucking around for 2 hour to wait on me. We went to my house for beer and pizza. Talked and laughed a lot. It was good to be around someone who makes me laugh. We live about 40 mins away and I had asked if he would come back to my town again? And he asked when his next back rub was? I had mention about liking to bake banana bread, and he said he had a banana tree in his yard (we live in the midwest) we laughed.. so he seemed interested. He said he kept looking to see if I had a ring on...
He kissed some through out the evening and said he would call last pm or the first of the week. Later on before he left I said something, (cant remember what) and he said "you gave me your number didnt you." He said he would give me his if I wanted and I said I would just get it when he called. He said he figured I got his number off of his check. (I was working an auction and he was there) The he said he would call me last pm if i was lucky and laughed. He told me he had a good time. But I didnt hear from him last pm.
I didnt do much dating in my 20's.. I was with my exhusband. (I am 31 now) So if he doenst call what do I do.. just figure he is not interested? Do I wait a week and call him.... Now writing in my journal about all of this.. was I acting desperate for him to call me for mentioning it when he left.......or am I over reacting?? I never asked about what he was doing this week or over the next weekend......nor did I try to make plans with him for next weekend..
I guess I take people to seriously.. when you say you will call.. you call..
So if he doesnt call what do you do?..Please help out here....

You are 31 yet are playing games with telephone numbers. What you should have said when he left was, "I had a great time tonight and would very much like to see you again. Are you going to be available next weekend?" You have to tell people what you want and what you expect, men don't have ESP.
He didn't call and now you have to sit on your hands waiting for something that might or might not happen. It is only Tuesday so he might call today, if not give him a call toward the end of the week but don't hold your breath that he is all that interested.
Usually, if you've discussed calling and your certain he has your number and he doesn't contact you, he's not interested or has realized he doesn't have the interest he thought he did. This is a hard reality to accept but guys usually don't want to hurt your feelings and will say they're going to call when they aren't.
From the sounds of it, you are just returning to the dating world so don't be afraid to take it slow -it concerns me that your "first date" was you inviting him to your house rather than going out but I don't know the circumstances. The important thing to remember is that it shouldn't be confusing or difficult. You'll know he's interested because he'll act like it.
Good luck.
That little comment he made about calling you "if YOU are lucky" says a lot.
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that IS arrogant. get him out of your mind. if he calls, fine.