I'm 21, He's 32

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Registered: 11-23-2003
I'm 21, He's 32
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 12:40am
I am dating a new guy who is 32 and I am 21. We met about a month ago and would go to the same bar once a week and see each other there. I finally got up the nerve to ask him out and we have gone out a few times since then. I am not the type of person who likes to date a lot of guys and I also have never picked up a guy at a bar before I met him. I am not the typical 21 year old and he says that I seem very mature for my age and that's one of the reasons why he is attracted to me. I think that most guys my age are immature and don't know what they want from life which is why I don't date at all. I am just not sure how to act since i have never "dated" someone i have only had boyfriends in college and HS that don't really count. And since he is older sometimes I am not sure if when I am talking to him if he is thinking "oh, well that's typical for a 21 year old." I just would like some advice from anyone that has done this before. Thanks!
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Registered: 10-23-2004
Tue, 10-26-2004 - 9:19am
I just wanted to tell you that myself has dated an older man before. i was 21 and he was 33. i found that communication was the best for our relationship. i my self are very mature for my age and am finding myself more attracted to older men. just do what your heart tells you and keep the communication ver ver veryyyyyy open. oh and have fun.
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Registered: 08-04-2004
Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:05am
I dated an older guy. I was 19 and he was 26. Now I wish I hadn't. I say, be careful some men have very different motives than what we would like to think.

But if you really believe that you have something with this guy, then be yourself and have open communication. If you want him to truly like YOU then you have to be yourself. I wish you the best of luck!