I'm 40 yrs old seduced by a 27 yrs. old

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Registered: 10-31-2004
I'm 40 yrs old seduced by a 27 yrs. old
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:15am
i was seduced by this guy who's 13 years younger than me, it started when he came to help me when i had a minor car accident since then we've been communicating by text messages. He was upfront to me that he just only wanted sex. I told him that i couldn't do that coz i'm married. I thought he would stop but he started sending me dirty messages so i thought that it was just a harmless fun so i played along with him. So many times that he asked me to meet up with him and i always turned him down. He disappeared for a month and then he's backed again . And this has been going on for a year. Just because i'm curious how he looks like after a year and to find out if the attraction was still there i agreed to meet up with him. And i was right the attraction was so intense, there were intimacies but not full on sex. Now the problem is that i'm fallen for him and i couldn't open up my feelings for him coz he told me from the start that he's just only wanted fun. I've been suffering now coz i'm falling in love with him and i really don't know now where i stand, i would like to know if this guy is just a player? Or he must be hiding his true feelings? Please help me i really don't know what to do? Even before he came into my life my marriage is already on the rocks And i've noticed that when we're together he respects me and not pushing me for sex. He's different when he speaks on the phone he talks dirty but in person he respects me. What's wrong with this guy? Do i have to open up my feelings to him? Or i'll just end up our communication for good and it's time for me to move on.

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Registered: 08-23-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:03am
He is a player. Please don't cheat on your husband. Do you have children? How long have you been married? Sit down with your husband and reignite the passion in your marriage. You know you can do it. Things often get tired after many years of marriage, but think about how much your SO means to you, how much you would (and are) hurt him if he knew of your unfaithful behaviour.

You sound like you are in need of some excitement, which is not the same as throwing your marriage away.

Good Luck with this.