I'm afraid I'm too boring

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I'm afraid I'm too boring
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Fri, 03-05-2004 - 2:13pm
I've been dating my bf for about 1.5 months now. He says he loves, I know I love him, but I worry that I'm just too darn boring. When we talk on the phone I can't think of much to talk about. I think we do pretty well when we're together, but we talk twice a day and I'm worried he's going to get bored with me. HELP!!
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 3:06pm
Well, sometimes people don't have a lot to say to one another. Married couples go through this. Dating couples go through this. Even friends go through this. Perhaps only talking on the phone every other day or every two days will help. You'll have time to do other stuff and then you'll be able to talk about it. Good luck.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 3:47pm
Well, even if he DOES get bored with you, there is nothing you should do except be yourself no matter what. Don't try to be someone you're not -- that can only last so long and it's deceptive. If you are who you are, and he gets bored and breaks it off...then you have only found out something you needed to know -- that he wasn't the right guy for you. See, people can be good, great, kind and love you...but still not be a right fit for you. It happens all the time. The right guy for YOU is someone who will not find you boring, will love you for who you are and will be on the same page as you are about what you want and need from one another. You could always tell him that you love spending time with him but that you're not much of a phone person, so don't have much to say twice a day on the phone (something like that).

I'm not a phone person either and some might find me boring too! ;-) But luckily for me, my husband is the same way on both counts, so we fit together like hand in glove. We spend time together sometimes not saying a thing -- but we are comfortable with the silences. We only talk on the phone to convey information -- our phone conversations are so short it's funny. We're very happy to have found in one another someone who doesn't always want to chat and make idle conversation to fill the gaps. We hate small talk and don't do it well.

Again -- you're fine just the way you are. Don't settle for ANYONE who thinks differently! :-) Good luck.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 4:36pm
thanks so much for your insight! i really appreciate it : )
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Registered: 02-27-2004
Fri, 03-05-2004 - 7:12pm
Don't worry... having no issue in your phone conversation is just normal..You're not alone with this problem.

I also have the same problem as yours. I've been dating a guy for 1 month.. we frequently meet and talk on the phone more than one times a day.

Lack of idea on the phone conversation also happened to me.....so don't worry!!! he will not get bored of you because of that . And stop thinking that he'll be bored at you... just relax, and enjoyed your time.

good luck!!

Hopefooly