Normally PG avoids the longer posts, but there were a few issues in yours that he'd like to comment on...if that's OKAY?
You're 27 years old and working on YOUR DREAM! And that's where your #1 form of concentration has to be. Granted...it would've been nice to have a little "male support" by your side. But sadly...you can't alter anybody's PERSONAL FEELINGS TOWARD YOU...no matter how hard you'd like to try?
Given the fact that some of your EX's have 'given up on you' despite the support you've provided towards them...it's entirely possible that YOU are expecting a certain of behavior (or perhaps a commitment) from men who just are interested in making one? Many of us really enjoy having a good, close friendship with a special lady like yourself...BUT not to the point of exclusivity, marriage or anything that resembles "they lived happily ever after?"
I think it's wonderful that you have dreams for a solid future...and that you're in the process of making some of them come true. But try to remember that what's IMPORTANT TO YOU...isn't necessarily going to be AS IMPORTANT TO A PARTNER who just wants to be a GOOD FRIEND?
I am 54 years old and I raised three children almost on my own with the help of my lifelong career. My advice to you would be that education is as important as almost any job and usually leads to better earnings long-term, anyway. I would say if your guy does not value your education, he is not bright enough to be with you. If your education is threatening to him, you don't need him. My advice would be NEVER give up a chance to better yourself for any one guy.
Also, don't despair of finding a guy who will want to go slow physically until you all get to know each other. Guys like that ARE out there, and they are a far better risk because they are smart enough to know that that is how relationships grow best. They guys who rush you are usually not interested in something long-term or they are not skilled enough to know there is a better way to do it. I have finally found one of those guys myself, and it is well worth waiting for. Good luck! Stick to your guns. You are on the right path.
earispointy...
Normally PG avoids the longer posts, but there were a few issues in yours that he'd like to comment on...if that's OKAY?
You're 27 years old and working on YOUR DREAM! And that's where your #1 form of concentration has to be. Granted...it would've been nice to have a little "male support" by your side. But sadly...you can't alter anybody's PERSONAL FEELINGS TOWARD YOU...no matter how hard you'd like to try?
Given the fact that some of your EX's have 'given up on you' despite the support you've provided towards them...it's entirely possible that YOU are expecting a certain of behavior (or perhaps a commitment) from men who just are interested in making one? Many of us really enjoy having a good, close friendship with a special lady like yourself...BUT not to the point of exclusivity, marriage or anything that resembles "they lived happily ever after?"
I think it's wonderful that you have dreams for a solid future...and that you're in the process of making some of them come true. But try to remember that what's IMPORTANT TO YOU...isn't necessarily going to be AS IMPORTANT TO A PARTNER who just wants to be a GOOD FRIEND?
Pianoguy
I am 54 years old and I raised three children almost on my own with the help of my lifelong career. My advice to you would be that education is as important as almost any job and usually leads to better earnings long-term, anyway. I would say if your guy does not value your education, he is not bright enough to be with you. If your education is threatening to him, you don't need him. My advice would be NEVER give up a chance to better yourself for any one guy.
Also, don't despair of finding a guy who will want to go slow physically until you all get to know each other. Guys like that ARE out there, and they are a far better risk because they are smart enough to know that that is how relationships grow best. They guys who rush you are usually not interested in something long-term or they are not skilled enough to know there is a better way to do it. I have finally found one of those guys myself, and it is well worth waiting for. Good luck! Stick to your guns. You are on the right path.