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I'm in Deep now...
| Thu, 06-28-2007 - 12:12pm |
Hey guys...I just wanted to give an update on my dating situation with the guy I've been dating for about 3 months now! I'm sure a lot of you remember my posts...If not, then basically the story is that I've been dating this man for 3 months now, and seeing eachother once or twice a week...
Anyway, things have been moving along rather nicely. The spider situation, as most of you advised, was not a big deal to him at all...and we never brought it up again. I have been trying to get a new job as of late, and had a couple interviews at this one place I hope to work, and he has been extremely supportive in this area...and is always calling/texting to ask how the interview went, and wanting details, etc., and of course offering encouragement. I really love this about him. He always seems to want to know what is going on in my life, and gives great advice about work,etc. He seems genuinely interested in my life.
I met his parents last weekend, and a few more of his friends. We all were at a huge neighborhood barbeque. Now, he is not really a very affectionate/verbal/emotional guy....so I know that it's a good sign if he touches me in public. He would often come up to me at the BBQ and put his arm around my lower back, etc. and I took that as a good sign that things were going well. I got along GREAT with his hilarious friends, and I think I made a good impression on them as well. His parents seemed super nice, and seemed to have liked me also. All in all, it was a great night.
Saturday night was the night he was going to be going out for his birthday. His ACTUAL birthday was Monday, but he wanted to go out and celebrate it on saturday night. Well, I told him that I had already made plans with friends awhile back for that night, and I really couldn't get out of them...He seemed pretty disappointed, and would tease me about it (like, saying in front of his friends, "She's already got PLANS...and won't be there tomorrow night for my birthday celebration" and "You're going to hang out with OTHER guys for my birthday huh?") but he would say all this in jest...and not really seriously. Kind of teasing. I know that he really wanted me to come, so I told him that I might be able to meet up with him later on in the evening, and he was fine with that. Well, I did end up meeting up with him that night, and I dressed super cute on purpose (for his birthday). He told me I looked "really hot" and when we were out a the busy club/bar, he would hold my hand some and then kissed me a couple of times...Which was really strange for him, as he is definitely not usually this affection, especially in public! Granted, we had both had a little bit to drink, but I was shocked! I loved this side of him though.
He always wants me to spend the night with him, and Saturday night I left my bag of toiletries I bring to his house in my car, and he went out in the rain after we had sex to get it for me. He told me to just relax in bed, while he went to get it. THAT completely won me over. I am seriously FALLING IN LOVE with this man.
He knows that I have only had sex with two people in my life. My ex-husband and HIM. He keeps saying, though, that he feels I am about to have sex with someone else soon. He is always talking about how our sex is getting so much better, and how he can have sex with me all the time. I feel the exact same way- our sex is getting so much more passionate and meaningful. After sex on Saturday night, I leaned over and kissed him on the forehead and he shivered and kind of moaned. It seemed that a simple kiss caused so much emotion in him! I wonder what is going on here?? I just know that I am IN DEEP and there is NO turning back now!! It's all over for me...and I hope for him?? I just hope that he is feeling the same way as I am about him....How can I know?? without straight out asking him?
He has been calling/texting me more (I didn't get to the phone on monday night when he called the first time (was very busy with my child), so he called back again two hours later and then admitted that he got kind of worried when I didn't answer the first time or text him.)
I am trying to stay busy and focused on myself and my life....but it's getting harder. Yesterday is the first day I haven't talked to him in awhile, and I truly missed him. Very much. What should I do to keep his interest? Does he sound like he is falilng in love with me too? What are the signs of a man falling in love with a woman? Thanks so much for any comments/advice!! I truly appreciate it.
Anyway, things have been moving along rather nicely. The spider situation, as most of you advised, was not a big deal to him at all...and we never brought it up again. I have been trying to get a new job as of late, and had a couple interviews at this one place I hope to work, and he has been extremely supportive in this area...and is always calling/texting to ask how the interview went, and wanting details, etc., and of course offering encouragement. I really love this about him. He always seems to want to know what is going on in my life, and gives great advice about work,etc. He seems genuinely interested in my life.
I met his parents last weekend, and a few more of his friends. We all were at a huge neighborhood barbeque. Now, he is not really a very affectionate/verbal/emotional guy....so I know that it's a good sign if he touches me in public. He would often come up to me at the BBQ and put his arm around my lower back, etc. and I took that as a good sign that things were going well. I got along GREAT with his hilarious friends, and I think I made a good impression on them as well. His parents seemed super nice, and seemed to have liked me also. All in all, it was a great night.
Saturday night was the night he was going to be going out for his birthday. His ACTUAL birthday was Monday, but he wanted to go out and celebrate it on saturday night. Well, I told him that I had already made plans with friends awhile back for that night, and I really couldn't get out of them...He seemed pretty disappointed, and would tease me about it (like, saying in front of his friends, "She's already got PLANS...and won't be there tomorrow night for my birthday celebration" and "You're going to hang out with OTHER guys for my birthday huh?") but he would say all this in jest...and not really seriously. Kind of teasing. I know that he really wanted me to come, so I told him that I might be able to meet up with him later on in the evening, and he was fine with that. Well, I did end up meeting up with him that night, and I dressed super cute on purpose (for his birthday). He told me I looked "really hot" and when we were out a the busy club/bar, he would hold my hand some and then kissed me a couple of times...Which was really strange for him, as he is definitely not usually this affection, especially in public! Granted, we had both had a little bit to drink, but I was shocked! I loved this side of him though.
He always wants me to spend the night with him, and Saturday night I left my bag of toiletries I bring to his house in my car, and he went out in the rain after we had sex to get it for me. He told me to just relax in bed, while he went to get it. THAT completely won me over. I am seriously FALLING IN LOVE with this man.
He knows that I have only had sex with two people in my life. My ex-husband and HIM. He keeps saying, though, that he feels I am about to have sex with someone else soon. He is always talking about how our sex is getting so much better, and how he can have sex with me all the time. I feel the exact same way- our sex is getting so much more passionate and meaningful. After sex on Saturday night, I leaned over and kissed him on the forehead and he shivered and kind of moaned. It seemed that a simple kiss caused so much emotion in him! I wonder what is going on here?? I just know that I am IN DEEP and there is NO turning back now!! It's all over for me...and I hope for him?? I just hope that he is feeling the same way as I am about him....How can I know?? without straight out asking him?
He has been calling/texting me more (I didn't get to the phone on monday night when he called the first time (was very busy with my child), so he called back again two hours later and then admitted that he got kind of worried when I didn't answer the first time or text him.)
I am trying to stay busy and focused on myself and my life....but it's getting harder. Yesterday is the first day I haven't talked to him in awhile, and I truly missed him. Very much. What should I do to keep his interest? Does he sound like he is falilng in love with me too? What are the signs of a man falling in love with a woman? Thanks so much for any comments/advice!! I truly appreciate it.

"What should I do to keep his interest?" ---- In the beginning of a relationship this area is kind of on autopilot because each experience is new. The first time you do anything (like movies, a trip, concert) it will create conversation and activities that will fuel the "newness" of the relationship. So just by exploring and doing new things together it will boost the interest factor. You don't have to "do" anything special at this point in your relationship.
"Does he sound like he is falilng in love with me too? What are the signs of a man falling in love with a woman?" --- it sure sounds like he's falling for you too ;). I think his overall concern for your safety and his willingness to make you happy are actions that indicate that he has invested emotionally in you and the relationship. I'm sure as time goes on he will express his emotions more freely.