I'm Getting Tired Of This...

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2005
I'm Getting Tired Of This...
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Sat, 11-12-2005 - 12:21pm

Hello everyone, I'm new to this board and I need some advice and opinions on my realationship problem(s). Here goes...
I am a single mother of 3 kids. 2 teens and a 4 year old.
I have been dating my bf for 4 months now.He seems like a kid, always depending on me for things. I mean, he often asks me for money, he cannot come to my home to visit me because he can't get the gas ( the last 2 months I have been visiting him.).
Not only that, I do his laundry and cook for him also. I must admit he seems to appreciate that at least.
But here's the problem....

Our incomes are the same but I have myself and 3 kids to care for. Not only that, my heating system is down.I borrowed 2 heaters from my family until the repairmen are coming this week.Would you believe my BF offered to SELL me an elecrtic portable heater that he DOES NOT use, knowing I have little money? Gosh, I think he should give me that heater considering all I have done for him. I mean, I cook and do laundry for him MANY times.And it seems like he would care enough to at least offer to loan me the heater, though I don't need it now.
And yesterday he called me and asked if I could loan him 10 bucks. I told him I didn't know if i could or not.We went out to dinner twice this week and I had to pay both times.
I love this man but frankly I'm getting tired of this business. I mean it's ALL taking and no giving. I realize things must change or else it's over between us. I have enough kids to care for without having him too. This is why I'm here...to get advice on this problem. Sometimes I wonder if he just wants me to get what HE needs.

So what do you think of this situation? This has been bugging me for sometime.I know I need to discuss things with him.
So how can I tell him in a nice way that he needs to take care of his needs on his own and stop depending on me so much?
Thanks to all that will respond.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2005
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 3:40am
Run away from this man.

.emily.

 

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