I'm an Idiot

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Registered: 03-26-2006
I'm an Idiot
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Thu, 07-13-2006 - 11:40am

Ok, so I got picked up at the bar on Saturday night. I asked for his number. Last night I called him and the phone went to voicemail. I leave a message. This morning I wake up and realize that I did not leave my number on the message, and since his phone went immediately to voicemail, he will not have a call log with my number. He can't call me back.

What do I do? I don't want to look like a weirdo stalker? I feel so stupid!!!

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 11:47am

Stop stressing and just call again and leave your number!

Sheri

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Registered: 06-30-2006
In reply to: vacn31
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 12:16pm

Hi there,

I would wait a few days....if he doesn't call back then I would call him again. Why not? Call once more, maybe he will answer, and if not leave another message. Just say "hey, it's ______, sorry to leave another message but I don't think I left my number on the last one. My number is _________, gimme a call when you get this message. Bye". It's not a big deal. If a guy did that to me I wouldn't think OMG, STALKER!!! So just do it....and good luck!

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 2:16pm

In this circumstance then you can call and say casually, hi I realized you'd have to be psychic to call me back. you dont' have my telephone no.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 7:51pm

Leave one quick message with your number. Just don't be like the guy in Swingers. THAT would make you look like a stalker. LOL ...

Mike opens the door and flicks on the lights in his sparsely
furnished single.

He drops his keys on the table and makes a bee line to the
answering machine.

He pushes the button.

ANSWERING MACHINE
(synthesized voice)
She didn't call.

Mike collapses into his futon and lights a smoke.

Beat.

He pulls out the COCKTAIL NAPKIN. He stares at the number.

He looks at the clock. 2:20 AM.

He looks at the napkin.

He thinks better of it, and puts the napkin away.

Beat.

He takes out the napkin and picks up the phone.

ANSWERING MACHINE
(synthesized voice)
Don't do it, Mike.

MIKE
Shut up.

He dials.

It rings twice, then...

NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)

MIKE
Hi, Nikki. This is Mike. I met you
tonight at the Dresden. I, uh, just
called to say I, uh, I'm really glad we
met and you should give me a call. So
call me tomorrow, or , like, in two days,
whatever. My number is 213-555-4679...
(beep)

Mike hangs up.

Beat.

He dials again.

NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)

MIKE
Hi, Nikki. This is Mike, again. I just
called because it sounded like your
machine might've cut me off before I gave
you my number, and also to say sorry for
calling so late, but you were still there
when I left the Dresden, so I knew I'd
get your machine. Anyway, my number
is...
(beep)

Mike calls back right away.

NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)

MIKE
213-555-4679. That's all. I just wanted
to leave my number. I don't want you to
think I'm weird, or desperate or
something...
(he regrets saying it
immediately)
... I mean, you know, we should just
hang out. That's it. No expectations.
Just, you know, hang out. Bye.
(beep)

He hangs up.

Beat.

He dials.

NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leaves a message.
(beep)

MIKE
I just got out of a six-year
relationship. Okay? That should help to
explain why I'm acting so weird. It's
not you. It's me. I just wanted to say
that. Sorry.
(pause)
This is Mike.
(beep)

He dials again. There's no turning back.

NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)

MIKE
Hi, Nikki. This is Mike again. Could you
just call me when you get in? I'll be up
for awhile, and I'd just rather talk to
you in person instead of trying to
squeeze it all...
(beep)

He dials yet again.

NIKKI
(recorded)
Hi. This is Nikki. Leave a message.
(beep)

MIKE
Hi, Nikki. Mike. I don't think this is
working out. I think you're great, but
maybe we should just take some time off
from each other. It's not you, really.
It's me. It's only been six months...

NIKKI
(Live, in person. she picks
up the line)
Mike?

MIKE
Nikki! Great! Did you just walk in, or
were you listening all along?

NIKKI
(calmly)
Don't call me ever again.

MIKE
Wow, I guess you were home...
(click)




Edited 7/13/2006 7:52 pm ET by pureatheart11

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 8:07pm

I love that movie, and that was a great scene ;-).

But her calling back ONCE and leaving the number isn't going to make her a stalker by any means!

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: vacn31
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 8:23pm

LOL, no, calling once to leave your # isn't stalker behaviour.

That has to be one of the most painful, yet funny dating scenes ever.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2006
In reply to: vacn31
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 8:22am

Thanks all for the advice. I'm calling him on my way home from work tonight. I just had to get over my initial embarrassment yesterday. When I was leaving the message, I just thought his call log would give him my number, but then I realized later if his phone is off, he doesn't have a call log.

Oh well. Lesson learned. Always leave the number. I have a lunch date with someone else today. This is all in my quest to get over a certain loser...who I happened to hook up with last weekend, but that is besides the point. I'm moving on. I'm a dating fiend!!