I'm interested...in being friends.

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Registered: 06-04-2006
I'm interested...in being friends.
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Mon, 08-28-2006 - 10:10am

Hello,

I met a fun, kind and wonderful guy at a friend's party that I would love to be friends with. So far, whenever we hang out, we are amongst friends--at first with our mutual friends, then with his friends and most recently with my friends. I am not sure if he is interested or just friendly, but I am most definitely not attracted to him.

At our last get-together, a lady friend made the comment that she'd still be single at our annual Christmas party (a party a friend of ours has every year) and I said, "Join the club, lady!" within definite earshot of the guy in question. I meant this as "I'm not interested in you." but not sure if he got that.

Ok, so here's the question--I so totally would like to continue being friends with him--we have fun--so is the dinner a date? How do I know! I mean, should I avoid the dinner? Do men and women go out to dinner as friends?--Thanks for your help.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 10:32am
Rather than trying to make off-hand comments to this man and hope that he gets what you are trying to tell him, I would strongly suggest you have an honest discussion so that nobody is confused.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 11:16am

What's the problem with telling him?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-28-2006 - 11:49am

Yes, of course men and women go to dinner as friends! I would wait until you do so and try to get a read on the situation. Pay your share, for sure (even if he says no, have your money ready to put down) so you can send a clear "friends" signal. And if he starts talking about dating type things, then say something (but I wouldn't say anything unless and until that happens).

Sheri