I'm interested...in being friends.
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| Mon, 08-28-2006 - 10:10am |
Hello,
I met a fun, kind and wonderful guy at a friend's party that I would love to be friends with. So far, whenever we hang out, we are amongst friends--at first with our mutual friends, then with his friends and most recently with my friends. I am not sure if he is interested or just friendly, but I am most definitely not attracted to him.
At our last get-together, a lady friend made the comment that she'd still be single at our annual Christmas party (a party a friend of ours has every year) and I said, "Join the club, lady!" within definite earshot of the guy in question. I meant this as "I'm not interested in you." but not sure if he got that.
Ok, so here's the question--I so totally would like to continue being friends with him--we have fun--so is the dinner a date? How do I know! I mean, should I avoid the dinner? Do men and women go out to dinner as friends?--Thanks for your help.

What's the problem with telling him?
Yes, of course men and women go to dinner as friends! I would wait until you do so and try to get a read on the situation. Pay your share, for sure (even if he says no, have your money ready to put down) so you can send a clear "friends" signal. And if he starts talking about dating type things, then say something (but I wouldn't say anything unless and until that happens).
Sheri