I'm kicking myself for this! Advice Pls!
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I'm kicking myself for this! Advice Pls!
| Sun, 01-22-2006 - 1:56pm |
Im kicking myself for doing this... but right now, i think i just need some input. Its been a year since I've been single.. It was a extremely difficult breakup with a very easy rebound break up. I've been with couple people here and there since but nothing worth talking about... then I started sleeping with my neighbor... I thought at first it would be ok. I"m single, he's single, and he wasn't the type of person that I would normally date... I didn't think that i was all that attracted to him. So to get involved just on a physical level seemed like a good idea at the time. But now I think I'm starting to like him. Damn it all!! He's extremely funny, nice, makes me laugh. I find myself wanting to spend more time with him. But I don't think the feeling is mutual....I'd like to find out but I don't want to put any pressure or awkwardness there. At this point, I think that maybe the best thing to do is just end things now so I don't get involved anymore that I am now so therefore I won't end up getting hurt.. So I guess my question is... is there a way to find out how he sees me without askng him? If he liked me, and is interested in more, then he would even ask me to go out... outside his apartment. right? or he would want to see me more?? Damn it all!!!! Someone please shed some light on this situation??

Hi Kes, sorry you're going through this.
A wise man once told me that the difference between a sex buddy and a girl you want to see is that you want to spend time hanging out with the latter. Personally, since you already started things on an FWB basis, I would try to move it out of the house without a huge conversation. If there's a new movie you'd like to see or a restaurant that you'd like to explore, ask him if he'd like to go with you. I would give him 2 chances to go out, after that (if this were me) I'd probably end it.
Trust your instincts. If your guts are saying all he's there for is sex, then you may have your answer already.
Hope this helps.