I'm not sure how to feel

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-04-2007
I'm not sure how to feel
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Sun, 03-04-2007 - 8:19pm
My girlfriend has just recently started hanging out with this guys that I think more than likey has a thing for her and I don't trust him. He constantly talks to her, he avoids me, he is starting to ask her to hangout. I don't know what to do, she say "if you trust me than trust him because I do" we've had many discussions about him and it always ends basically with, I'm way to jealous and you need to let me hangout with my friends. I don't know what to do anymore.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 03-04-2007 - 10:08pm
Hon, your friend is free to hang out with whom she wants. You cannot tell her what to do or who to hang out with. You've told her how you feel so now let her decide what to do. Trying to tell her more will only make you look like your jealous and she in time wouldn't want to be around you anymnore. Could it be possible that you do feel jealous because she hangs more time with him than with you?
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 8:05am

Unfortunately you don't have a say in the matter of who she hangs out with. Maybe this guy is up to something and maybe he isn't, but you all are adults and you do not get to pick and choose her friends.

You don't have to trust HIM, but you do need to trust HER. And if there's something there that you DON'T trust her, then that's an entirely separate issue that you need to deal with. But this guy's got nothing to do with it.