I am really big into social dancing and I meet a lot of friends this way. One in particular who I met back in January has had my attention for months. He is a great guy and I've been dying to test the waters so I was very happy and surprised when he asked me to go to a dance event for this past Saturday. He said that he was pretty sure the event was a "bring-a-date-and-dance-with-her-all-night" kind of thing. He called on Saturday afternoon and said we should get a bite to eat before. I assumed we would be with his two married friends that were going but it ended up being the two of us. He was a perfect gentleman...helped me take my jacket on/off, opened the car door for me every time we got in, etc. He wanted to pay for dinner, too, but since he had paid for the tickets I wanted to help with dinner. When we got to the dance, it was awesome. While we didn't dance strictly with one another all night, we did about 2/3 of the songs together. There was definitely good chemistry out on the floor and I had such a blast. On the way home, there wasn't a lot of conversation because we were both tired. When we got back to his condo (where my car was parked) I got out and stood about 8 feet away from him and said "Well, thanks, this was so much fun!". I felt very awkward because I didn't really know what to do or say. He gave me a tentative hug (no kiss). Then as I was walking towards my car said "I know you have a long drive home so I'll be thinking about you." Then he stood at his door and watched me drive off. Perfect gentleman without a doubt, but very hard to tell if it was a "friend date" or a "DATE date".
The thing that is throwing me: he has a regular performance partner (nice girl) who recently injured her ankle and hasn't been able to rehearse, perform, or dance socially. As far as I know, they aren't an item but I'm wondering if I'm just playing "stand in" for her until she is back on her feet.
The thing in my favor: we see each other at least twice a week at social dances and lessons where he and I dance together a lot. He's a little flirtatious too. Also, last night, I am almost positive he was watching me while I danced with another guy. And he made a point to come over and say goodbye to me just before he left.
The thing that is not in my favor: Like many women, I have a tendency to overdramatize and see things may or may not really be there.
Thanks a million for your advice!
I would say there seems to be some interest on his part, but it is hard to say how much.
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